TTC#2 After Early Miscarriage Last Month!

I am sorry about your pain and I know how you feel, I also miscarried, twice. About a year after my husband and I were married, we started to try, and got pregnant right away. I was about 9 weeks when I started to spot and by the next day, I had lost the baby. I was so sad and couldn't figure out what I had done wrong and then with wonderful support realized it was not my fault and that the Lord is in control and he does not make mistakes, so it was not time for us to have a child yet. We waited a couple months and got pregnant again, I started to bleed again at 9 weeks and spotted for 4 weeks and ended up having a healthy baby boy. What a blessing!! A few years later we tried again and I ended up having another miscarry at 6 weeks. Once again you go through all the motions. We then waited awhile and got pregant again and this time around I went to my Pastor at 7 weeks and asked him to lay hands on my belly and pray for me. He did and from that moment on all the worries and concerns I had were gone. I knew the Lord would take care of this child and that this was a blessing and everything was going to be okay. By 22 weeks, I went in for an ultrasound and I wasn't on the table 2 seconds with the thing on my belly and the nurse asked me, "Do you realize you are having twins??" I about fell off the table. You see after writing all this, believe in the Lord, he has a path already layed out for you. He will provide all your needs and take away all the worries and anxiety that comes along once you have already experienced a miscarry. I truly believe children are a blessing and just look for your answers from God and have your Pastor pray over your belly and all your concerns will go out the window. I now have healthy and very happy blessed 10 month old twins. You can have healthy babies after a miscaryy just believe and all will be given to you. May God Bless you.

hi i had a miscarriage with my first one i was seven weeks along when i lost my first one but 1 year later i had a fine pregancy i was scared when i lost my 1st one too but i did have a second one and then 4 yrs later i had another pregnacy and it went fine i had to stop at 2 because i told hubby if we could take care of these 2 we would be doing good

I am sorry to hear of your loss. I miscarried in Jan. It was my first miscarriage I also have a 3 year old son. I was 8 to 9 weeks along when I started spotting but the baby passed away at 6 to 7 weeks. It was one of the hardest things I have been through. We started trying again almost right away but I didn't get preganat until after I had 2 cycles. I am due in Dec. with another boy. I still worry some even though I am this far along but it does get better. I wish you luck in conceiving quick and having a healthy full term baby this time. B.

I understand what you are going through. I had a miscarriage with my first pregnancy & waited 3 months before trying again. It went perfect the 2nd time. Had a miscarriage with 3rd pregnancy, waited 3 months & had another perfectly normal pregnancy. So, as you can see, it is very possible to go on & have a normal preg. after a miscarriage. I did it twice. Just hope for the best & try not to get too anxious about what's going on. That's the best thing to do. If you miscarried, it was for a reason & was nothing you did. Keep hoping for the best & good luck to you. I'm sure it will all be fine!

RELAX!!!!! stress can cause a miscarrage! you should try to meditate or do something that relaxes you. My sister had that problem and her doc told her to drink a glass of wine b-4 trying to get pregnant and every night to relax her. Just let nature take it's course. I know it sounds CORNEY, but I believe that God decided when you are blessed with a child, so maybe you should pray and ley him know your wishes.

I personally dont have any advice, I am sorry. However, I do visit The APA boards for advice. It is a pregnancy board, they have all different kinds of threads, ttc, new mommies, they have threads by monthly due dates, general random, plus more here is the link
http://www.americanpregnancy.org/forums/index.php
I always read these here at mamasource and everyone here is great and I wouldnt change it, but i find that the ladies on that board are great as well and there are many more people on them so you get more advice. I like to have as much info as possible, so I like to have several places to go for advice. You may want to check them out, or do a search online for pregnancy boards, and check those out. Your chances of finding someone that has been through (or close to) what you have are much greater. Just an idea?. good Luck to you

I also had a 5 week miscarriage last month. I think the best advice I have heard is that everything happens in due time. I am grateful that it happend when it did and not further into the pregnancy. I know that when the time is right there will be no problems. I also know that stress is the worst thing for you when you are trying to concieve. As soon as you stop stressing, you will get pregnant. Good Luck!

L.,
A miscarriage is hard because no matter how far along you were; it was still you baby you lost.
I miscarried almost 3 years after I had my first child. I was deeply upset. I was about 8 weeks along.
I am very blessed to have great ob-gyns and he was the one that told me after my check-up (I had to have a D&C) that it was time to start trying for another. It was nice to have someone tell me that it was time and to start again. So 3 months later I got pregnant again. I was terrified and with every ache and pain I was at the doc or ER towards the end. I gave birth to a healthy 9lb 13oz baby boy. I didn't breath a sigh of relief until I held him in my arms. Having the miscarriage made me very scared but oh the reward was so much sweeter holding my baby in my arms.
Since having my son, we have added baby number 3 and now planning number 4.
I wish you the best!
M.

Hi, I am truly sorry for your loss,it is very hard and raises alot of questions from w/in. I went through the same thing twice. I found journaling, writing my thoughts down helped. For some reason men have a hard time expressing their feelings. But, if we find an outlet for ourselves, it helps tremendously and will take away the worry and stress, never the loss because you can never forget. hopefully you can find away from w/in to express your feelings and it can help w/ the healing process.

I would say that if you are so worried and stressed that something is going to go wrong you are probably not ready to get pregnant. Stress can cause huge problems and I believe it plays a very important role in miscarriage where there are no physical problems. I would just relax, give yourself time to heal after this miscarriage and realize that at that time it was not meant to be. Don't focus on it, don't try to plan, don't be in control. Most women get pregnant the way you did with your first, and are surprised when they find out. My best advise is give your body and mind some time to heal and rest. I do wish you the best.

My sister-in-law miscarried after eleven weeks with her first pregnancy. She was advised to wait for three months before trying again. She did and successfully conceived after a brief period of trying. I am happy to say that she has three beautiful children now-a daughter and a set of tewins(boy and girl). She was very worried about getting pregnant again and about the possibility of another miscarriage. She resolved herself to the fact that if she did conceive and lose the baby,that at least she tried. She wanted children so badly that the risk was worth the fear and anxiety that she would experience. I am sorry for the miscarriage and wish you the best of luck!!!!!

I empathize with your situation...I have been there...I do understand that you are to wait a few months before trying again after a miscarriage (similiar to that of a full term-pregnancy) if you try too soon the risks increase for another miscarriage b/c your body has not had time to readjust...you should also check with your doc to see what he thinks...rule out any problems...GOOD LUCK!!