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Someone else posted something similar asking if she should allow his parents to have to child for visits. I have always been against this b/c no matter what they tell you, thats still her son and she will go against your wishes to please her child. You need to stop all contact with the mother-in-law, she is a liar and has put your son in danger by allowing him to see his father. This man sounds very crazy and should not be allowed around your child w/o supervision. You need to get a hold of a family law book for your state and study it. Some states do have grandparents righs some dont. I always advice women to get educated on family law, I am a single mother of two boys and I have sole custody of my oldest son, his father can not take him, and only has supervised visits at a safe center until my son turns 13yrs old, hes 8yr now. He has no say so in my sons life and has to adibe by my rules. It cost me $3000.00 but it was worth the fight, you need to document everything he does, date and time. My son father tried to kidnap him when he was two so it was easy for me to get sole custody and supervised visits.

K., the bottom line is you have to do what is right for your son, he is your 1st priority. And lets be honest, if his grandmother has a record, then stop freaking out. All things work together for good, and God is not going to let anything happen to either one of you. My advise is go talk to a GOOD custody lawyer today, always have the upper hand in this kind of situation. Put a restraining order on both of them. You need to stop all contact, especially msg, and e-mails this would leave a communication trail that migt be misconstrude as hostility on your part. You don't want develope any physical evidence of you getting mad, they could always spin it around in court to say that you are the crazy one and it is all in your head.

Pleae don't let it defeat you today, when you are on God's team you can't loose, I know that I do not know you from Adam, but everything gonna be fine. And if nothing else you both will never have to deal with them again.

I know that is is hard and your plate is very full, and you feel overwhelmed, it WILL BE OKAY. I will keep you both in my prayers and please let me know the outcome.

Stand with you,
S. C.

Tonya is right...you need to protect your son. Grandparents do have rights in the state of Texas, but like most rights, you don't get to utilize them until you fight for the issues. Your in-laws have nothing over you unless and until you go to court. Then, if a court orders you to let them have visitation, you must abide or be held in contempt. You said you and the baby's daddy are split up. Does this mean there is no divorce? No court order? Well, if not, how can he force you to let him have visitation? A police officer won't even get involved in that dispute. He or she would tell the dad to get an attorney and take you to court. Don't be bullied by these people. If you know it's a danger to let your son be around them or be alone with them, then you need to do what's right and what your heart and mind tell you. Record the phone conversations. Keep a time line, journal, or diary of what is going on. All of this will prove beneficial in court. Plus, with them having criminal records you're right in that the court will probably keep you in favor. If you're in that Harris county area, I can recommend an attorney for you.

Do you have anything on file with the police dept as far as him abusing you? If so that will contribute his visitation rights etc. He most likely won't get visitation without supervision. You must seek a lawyer. If you cannot afford it you can go through legal aide like I am. It takes time, but it is according to your income.