I am wanting another baby I have a 6 year old son and a 5 year old daughter I formula fed both of them and now I am wanting another baby and to see what its like to breastfeed I can't figure out how to talk to my husband about it everytime I bring it up to my family they all tell me that we dont need another one but I would love to have 1 more so my question is how can I bring this up to him got any ideas?
I guess that is something you may have to blurt out to him that you want another baby and can you afford it? if so then that will be something you and him will have to discuss other than just getting pregnant and tell him later that is a discesion between you and your husband not you and your family good luck
Hi C.,
I think that this is something that needs to be discussed with just you and your Husband. Including your family on decisions is nice, but not when it comes to how many children you and your Husband would like to have. Breastfeeding is an awesome experience for any Mother. I nursed my Daughter for 1 month, and my Son for 7 months. Not all children latch on and make the experience enjoyable. So to have another baby just to breastfeed is not saying that your new baby will enjoy breastfeeding. I guess a way to bring it up to your Husband is to just be honest, but do not base having another baby soley on breastfeeding. It should be a decision you both make together, without anyone else telling you whether they agree or not. Good luck on your decision.
Ultimately the decision to have more kids is between you, your husband, and God. Both you and your husband need to agree on having a child, or life will be much harder for everyone around. Much as they love you, your extended family is not part of your marriage and it's not their decision how many children you have. (Plus, think of your kids - the more siblings they have, the greater family support THEY'LL have as adults, when you and your husband pass on.) :-)
And, just wait for when your gut says "Now is a good time to bring this up," and be straightforward. I know my husband prefers if I just say simply and directly what I want instead of beating around the bush. Good luck!
Stop bringing it up to your family and talk to your husband. Only the opinions of the 2 of you and what God has planned for your family is what matters. Just tell him that you have been having the baby urge and what does he think? If he says no right away, ask him what his concerns are. Then ask him if he would think about it for a couple of days and visit it again. If he says no the second time, then no is no. What your mom, sister, friend thinks doesn't matter.
Don't tell him you want another baby so that you can try breastfeeding. First you both need to agree that another baby is right for your family. Then you can decide how you plan to feed the baby. Come up with a different set of reasons why you want a baby and why it would work well for your family.
Ignore your family...it's not for them to decide. I don't know how your husband feels about it, but just tell him that you would like for both of you to think and pray about it. Wait a few weeks, tell him your thoughts, and listen to his.
If one spouse wants a baby and the other doesn't, then the one who doesn't trumps the one who does. Continuing to harp on the subject may get him to give in, but that's not the way you really want to go about bringing another person into your household. The last thing you want is for him to resent you or a baby he really doesn't want.
When I was ready to have our second, I spent alot of time in prayer. At first, he wasn't interested because he has a son from a previous marriage. We had talked that I had always wanted two children, but he saw the money sign. We talked, but I tried not to push, but to explain my feelings. He became more excited about the thought of another baby, too. If this is God's will, he will, in his time, open the door to talk with your husband.
I breastfed both my girls. I wouldn't do bottles, unless I physically couldn't produce the milk. Be prepared that this will take time away from your other kids, husband, and yourself. My first wouldn't take a bottle even when I pumped, so I couldn't ever leave her for more than a couple hours at a time. On the other side, I loved the closeness and the bond that is just between you and the baby.
Prayerfully, T.
Leave your family out of it. It is really none of their business...it is up to you and your husband. Break out some baby pics of the older kids and talk straight up with him about wanting another child. My husband came around after awhile, and he is really enjoying our third baby, as am I. Good luck
C. - I am a gr gr gr father.
This is something between you and your husband.
What is his thoughts, then after some quality time
and discussions go with the flow.
May God bless you both
