Waiting After a Miscarriage

so sorry for your loss. I too had a miscarriage at 9 weeks, but after that i wasn't trying to get pregnant again. I waited 6 weeks after the miscarriage before we started being intimate again, and sure enough that first time after those 6 weeks, i became pregnant with my son!! i was floored that it could happen again so quickly, but happy. so when i asked my doctor about it, he said since your hormones were already so high from just being pregnant it makes it really easy to get pregnant again soon afterward. good luck to you!

I am so sorry for your loss! I have been there and know how you and your husband must feel. My doctor told me to wait at least 6 months before trying again. This way my body had time to re-regulate the hormones and everything.

I am sorry to hear about your m/c. I had a m/c at 14 weeks that resulted in a D&C in 2003. After I had one cycle, my doctor gave me the green light to try again. I asked later what the importance of the one cycle was and he told me that it was to let your body get back on cycle (esp. after a D&C) and also to help them date a pregnancy in case you get pregnant right away. However, I have known plenty of women who got pregnant right after their m/c before their first cycle, so it can happen! I'll send you lots of baby vibes!

Hi Jennifer,
I send you a big hug. I'm sorry to hear that things didn't turn out. I myself had a miscarriage at 10w that was ended by D&C. My dr. said that it would take a around 6 wks for my body to get back on a schedule since the D&C basically would start everything over (clean the slate). He also said that now that my body had gone through this, and was ready for a baby that I would be pregnant again quickly. I didn't know if I was ready for that. I needed time to process everything, grieve, what have you. The pregnancy had been unexpected, and then to have it end that way was a lot to take in in such a short period of time. But sure enough, within 4m I was pregnant. Mind you, I didn't set out to get pregnant again that quickly, it just happened. I guess the dr. knew what he was talking about. That pregnancy was watched very carefully, had a few tense moments, but I was able to deliver a healthy baby girl.
My advice to you is to take some time. Now that you and your husband know that you want another child, take your time and let it happen when it will happen. Enjoy each other, without pressure for an end result of pregnancy and you'll end up pregnant faster than if you focus on the goal. Please trust me, I've given this advice to several friends. Each one gawked at me, but sure enough, as soon as they let it go and stopped focusing on it, they became pregnant.
M.

I am sorry to hear about your miscarriage. It does take time for your body to get back to regular. I would urge you to wait at least one more cycle before trying again. Most fertility specialists feel it is best to wait until you have had TWO regular periods before getting pregnant. I know it is hard to be patient, but it is infinitely harder to face a second miscarriage. Trust me on that one. It is well worth it to wait the extra time to be sure your body is ready for a healthy conception and pregnancy. Good luck to you!

Last June I miscarried my daughter at 17 weeks. It was the most horrible experience of my entire life so I can really relate to you. I thought my life was gonna end. My husband and I waited 5 years to start trying, and got pregnant right away, and then halfway through the pregnancy she was taken from me. It sucks. But on the bright side we started trying right away, as soon as I recovered from delivery (I didn't need a DC but needed to be induced) I felt like trying again after about 1-2 weeks. I had 2 regular periods just trying to get pregnant. Miscarried in June, was pregnant by Sept. I just had my baby girl June 25th!! She is 5 weeks old, had no complications at all during the pregnancy. I felt great the whole time! And she came out a healthy 8lbs 13oz! So my success story is as long as you didn't have a DC, go for it! Your body wont be depleted of nutrients after just 9 weeks. Also its normal to go 6 weeks or so without having your period after a miscarrige. Your body has to get back into the swing of things. For about a week after you miscarried, the test would have still showed you were pregnant, as your body still thinks it was! So just give it some time, you will probibly get one soon.

Good luck to you, and I hope you and your husbands hearts are healed and filled with loved very soon.

First, God Bless you - I am so sorry for your loss. Having gone through a couple miscarriages myself I would recommend waiting 12 weeks or until one complete menstrual cycle, just to give your body a chance to get back to "normal". Good luck to you.

I'm sorry about your miscarriage. I, too, miscarried a pregnancy at 9 weeks. That was 10/3/98. By Christmas I still had not gotten my period and a co-worker suggested that I might be pregnant again, which I of course was like "No way." But yes way! According the ultrasound, I got pregnant 12 days after the miscarriage on 10/15/98! And I went on to deliver a healthy baby girl 5 weeks early on 6/11/99. The premature delivery had nothing to do with the previous miscarriage, however. I have a uterine abnormality (bicornuate, or heart-shaped uterus) that caused both of my daughters to be born at 35 weeks. Didn't discover the abnormality until last year, though.

Anyway.... I don't recommend getting pregnant that quickly and I'm sure your dr. wouldn't either. Barring any other medical issues, I would think after a cycle or 2 you should be good to try again. Good luck to you!

S.