Tell the Name or Keep It Secret?

The same thing happened to us when we told people the two names we were considering. I couldn't believe that some people had the nerve to tell me that they didn't like one of the names. It spoiled the name for me. So after that we just stopped telling people until after she was born. Next child, we are just going to wait until after the birth to tell most people and maybe tell family members who are good at keeping secrets and won't have such rude opinions.

Keep it a secret! Why not, you're entitled, right? By doing so you don't have to endure the astonished looks and unwelcome remarks from others. When people ask the name simply tell them you and your husband are still negotiating - ha! My husband and I kept the names of both our girls a secret until after they were born. We didn't even tell our parents (which didn't make them too happy). Good luck to you!

If you are already sure of the name to use then why not tell people. To me, not telling because you are afraid of comments is already like being ashamed of your child's name. Plus, people like to buy personalized gifts. They are so much more special than the usual pile of onesies you'd otherwise receive!

We told people in the beginning and we got rude comments, opinions, etc and I just didn't want to deal with it. So then we decided on a name and didn't share it. When she was born, people told me they loved the name. I'm pregnant again and we will be keeping it a secret again.

leave some surprises for after the baby is born-- plus you may change your mind

With both of our boys we have told the name for one reason and one reason only - WE DON"T CARE WHAT EVERYONE ELSE THINKS! We chose some unusual names for our boys that often times draw less than favorable commentary, but honestly, other people don't have to like the names. We named our oldest boy Liam Rourke and our 2nd child Declan Conway and we have a third child coming in late Sept/early Oct. and he will be named Keegan Pierce. We didn't ask people's opinions, but I assure you that we have gotten plenty of them! Even now that my two boys are 4 and 17 months - I still the questions, "Why would you choose those names? Are they family names?" I typically answer that we love the names we chose and that it why we chose them. It was impossible to hide our names because I am a big fan of monogramming - blankets, bibs, burp cloths, teddy bears! Plus the giant letters on the wall in the nursery were a dead giveaway! Ignore the rude and snide comments and be proud of the names you choose! Who cares about all of the negative people!

I didn't decide on either of my kids' names until after they were born. For close family and friends, we would discuss options with them and were open to suggestions, but we didn't tell anyone a specific name until the baby came. For acquaintences and strangers, we just told them we had to wait until we saw his or her face.

Its fun to keep it a secret. We told everyone our first son's name before he was born. The responses we got then are the same responses we get now. You can't please everyone. With the second one we had a really hard time finding a name so we didn't share it with a lot of people. It seems like they forget his name more often or something its weired.
I say deep down you know what you want to do so do what makes you happy. Good luck!

Secret!
I learned the hard way I told my neighbors what we were naming ours and sure enough that is thier babys middle name. people love to name take, especially if it is a cute one!

I LOVE the names Gertrude and Matilda!! :) Really, I do.
The same thing happened to me with my second daughter. So many people insisted that "Reece" was a 'boys' name. I normally don't let comments bother me, but throw pregnancy hormones into the mix, and well... it got to me. I ended up putting Reece as her middle name, big mistake! As soon as she was home, we realized that no, she was a Reece for sure, and have called her that ever since. It is difficult having to explain on every form you fill out that it is her name but not her name... school, flight tickets, etc. Tell and stick to your guns, or don't-- just don't change it based on what other people think.

I had the same situation when I had my 3 boys. When we were still deciding on a name for my first son, I got a lot of odd looks when I mentioned our options. From then on I didn't tell anyone. I told everyone that we already know the sex of the baby, so we are letting the name be a surprise. It was great when the little guy was born both sets of grandparents were introduced hearing his full name for the first time.
Good luck!

Keep it a secret. We did that with our third child after getting unsolicited advice and comments on telling people the names of our first 2. It was fun to have our friends and family keep guessing what her name would be. I told them how many letters were in the name and I had everyone coming up with the funniest names. With our fourth and final child we had such a hard time picking a name so we shared our choices with friends and family. When I told a friend that I wanted to pick Sage, she told me she thought it was awful and that I should never name my child that. Well, I did name him Sage and now I know she hates it...makes me wish I wouldn't have shared in the beginning.

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It's up to you. I never had issues with telling the names. However, I'm guilty of complaining to a friend about the name of her 2nd child. I wasn't the only one to complain, but she heard so many complaints that she made it his middle name. Looking back I feel terrible. I shouldn't have said anything and neither should anyone else.

But it happens.

The name is yours to choose... and it's up to you to give advanced notice or not.

With our first, we told everybody her name. The second time around we decided to keep it a secret. We told everybody we were having a boy and when they asked for his name we'd just simply say that we were keeping that to ourselves until he was born.

My mom was really the only person that gave us a hard time about it, only because my dad died when I was 13 and she really wanted the first born grandson to be named after him. My husband and I discussed using my father's first name and liked it but never could agree on whether to use it as a first name or a middle name. So in the end we decided against it. We did use my dad's middle name for my son's middle name.

Anyway, this is your baby yet people will feel the need to give their input no matter what. I say keep it a secret! We had fun letting people play the "guessing game".

I would keep is a secret. People can be so rude throwing out their comments - I just don't think they think before they speak. After a while we told people we were naming our son Xanadu or Thor - I got sick of hearing all the opinions about our real names - so I really gave them something to chew on! We didn't decide on our sons name until the morning after he was born - I wanted to make sure the name "fit" him! So I would just say you're not sure yet - or tell them you want it to be a surprise! Best of luck and congratulations on your new little girl!!!

Make up a less than desireable name. Say - We're thinking of Gertrude Matilda. Then when you see the look on their face, laugh and say "see? it's awful isn't it? I guess we need to put more thought into it."

(My apologies to anyone names Gertrude OR Matilda)

Keep it a secret!!! Its fun and there are too few surprises these days. We have kept all 4 of ours a secret until the day the were born and our last two we let our daughter tell close family and friends when they came to the hospital. Your son will love that he knows the SECRET and that he has an important job to do on the day the baby comes. As far as what to tell people just say "Were keeping it a surprise for fun!!"