Teens with No Manners

HI M.,

Yes there are lots of parents out there who allow their kids to do whatever they please, with no regard for others, they started letting them behave that way from the beginning so that's how they have been taught to act in public and I am pretty sure that's how they act at home. It's very unfortunate because nobody wants to be around children like that. I have 3 teenagers and since they were old enough to take out to restaurants we made it a point to teach them how to act properly and not bother others....if only everybody would do that as well.....=0)

M.

I agree with many others here. Too many parents nowadays are too concerned about being "cool/popular" with their kids. That is not always possible and we can't just let kids do what they want to do so that we are "cool" to them. Of course teens will get mad when you tell them "no" or "stop that", but you can't just say "oh ok then, do what you want!" No, there are certain ways one should conduct oneself, especially in public, and it is important to learn that from a young age (from you parents). I think when a parent sets limits and makes their kids follow them, the kids are always grateful later on in life even though at the time (as a teen) you think "oh my parents are so boring/mean".

I think most parents don't want ot be parents, they want to be their childs "friend". Thats the easy way out and blame society for their childs problems. I also don't like the way some let their children dress esp. girls, and hats on in restaurants. OK enough of my soap box, but I am with you. My children behave better in public than at home which we are still working on. They are 11,8,2 and girls. When we see inappropriate behavior in public, it is always a teaching lesson. I ask my kids what they think and do they want people to think that of them? It usually works.
I'm glad there are more of us than more of them.
K. E

No way is it ok. I think pre-teens and teens feel that they own the world these days. It's only because it's allowed that they are doing it. Yes, absolutely I think they would be the same at their homes - it's the same thing, parents who feel helpless and just let it happen. Imagine what those kids will be like in a few years when they are teens! I'm sure most moms will agree, we must get back to teaching RESPECT for parents - does anybody remember it's actually 1 of 10 commandments. If there are only 10 to live by, and that's one of them, perhaps it should be looked at a little more seriously!
That being said - yep, it's tough. Tweens and teens are very tough. I'm about to put out a request for a teen support group for continued advice! We all need to love & respect our tweens & teens, but we also must teach them to respect us parents. Thanks for noticing!!
M.

Today's parents have stopped being parents.........They want to be their child's "friend". This is so wrong and not good for their children at all; they are raising permissive children and it is not even the child's fault........Imagine the teachers of these kids.........
Today's kids are running the house and not the parents (at least a good many of them). It is terrible.

Hi M., I can't really explain why some parents think it's ok to let they're kid's behave certain ways. But I am on the same boat your on, my husband and I have actually been complimented on our childrens behavior in restaurants and such. It's unfortunate that most parents aren't that involved in they're kid's lives, that's what I believe the big picture is. They are trying to get they're parents attention. By any means.
I too, am a mom with three kids, loving every moment of it...together!! Im glad to see Im not the only one complaining about something like this!
M. A.