Support/advice from Other Moms with Saggy Deflated Boobs

Dear D.,

I hear ya sister:) I too used to be a good 34 cup, and after nursing 4 children (I literally weaned my just turned 3 year old about a week ago), and I'm waiting for that inevitable little saggy balloons that I call my breasts:) It used to really really bother me, and sometimes it still does...I go back and forth on breast enlargment - just to a solid 34 again! But I have a couple of thoughts on this. First, ask yourself - "why do I want/need larger breasts?" Will it help your self esteem? your intimate relationship with your husband? If you did go through the operation, will you regret it? If you honestly answer - yes/yes/no - then go for it. The only thing really wrong with making our bodies look better, is to do it for the wrong reasons. I think it's a very personal choice. Then I invite you to really think in your belly about these questions. Ask yourself, "Who am I". If you were stripped of all your "roles", if you dropped all your judgments on yourself and expectations, who are you really? You are a beautiful person. A beautiful woman. A beautiful spirit. Nothing more and nothing less. Then I invite you to take some time to take a good look at yourself naked in front of a full length mirror. Really see yourself for the amazing things your body can do and what it has done....given birth twice. Nursed 2 children for about 3 years total (thats amazing in our culture!) In the shower, rub oil all over your breast and really appreciate them - saggy deflated and all - for what they have done, and all they still can do. Plus there are so many benefits for being small chested:)
And, I bet you all the money in the world, that your husband loves you for you, and not for your breasts! Beleive me, when in bed with a woman they love, men are not thinking about our cellulite, or saggy breasts, or poochy tummys, or big butt. That's us putting those judgemnts on ourselves, limiting the amazing love and pleasure we can have with our honey-man; Limiting the Goddess that you are! After you have really done some looking within and still decide you want a breast enlargement - for no more reason that you just want them - then do it. In the meantime, be kind to yourself. Dress in your sexiest hottest outfit and go out with your husband. Really love yourself just as you are, just as you look. You will be surprised at how much better your clothes will look on - and off:)
Much good energy to you.

A.
Mom of 4 yummy children, married 14 amazing years, birth and parenting educator, and at 40 years old, have never felt better (droppy, battle scarred stretch marked, poochy body and all!)

Dear D.
Speaking from someone who has had breast cancer and a mastectomy (at age 36), I have a different perspective. It is easy to get so wrapped up in fake boobs, and fake everything else with plastic surgery on every other corner, but try working out a the gym or get some free weights that you can use at home. There are exercises that will firm up your chest area. Maybe that will help. But I don't think you will find the "answer" you are looking for in fake boobs. I do understand how it is sometimes difficult with a society that is so into how we look, but deal with who you are, not what you bought. I bet you are a great mom and wife. Do what you can and be thankful you have 2 real mommy breasts. I hope this helps!

I am sorry to hear about your situation! Many of my friends have had great results from Dr. Shaw at the SHaw Group in Scottsdale. He does amazing work and there isn't as much downtime (less than a week!) as you would think with breast augmentation. Good luck in whatever you decide to do!

http://www.theshawcenter.com/index.htm

I just wanted to offer my support and some advice. I had the smallest bee stings for breasts until I was 18 and went through late puberty and they just popped out, and boy were they nice once I finally got them. My cousins used to call them porno boobs because they were so nice and perky and firm and they were really jealous. Well, now "Sand in a sock" is a much more accurate description than "porno boobs". And they are completely covered in stretch marks. I'm still nursing my second, but I dread the day I stop and they are no longer full of milk. I remember how deflated they were after my first. I couldn't get over how droopy they were and how paper thin the skin seemed and just extremely unattractive. I was pretty disturbed and hadn't realized that the boobs I finally grew were going to disappear a short while after I got them.

So I truly feel your pain. I really complained and lamented about it a lot, until I decided to put an end to that one time after I was out with some women and they were going on and on with negative comments about their horrible, ugly, fat bodies. So I chimed in about my depressing breasts, and we all just were tearing ourselves apart. Then I realized what we were doing to ourselves and I was horrified. Why would I chose to actively participate in destroying my own self-esteem? Do I want my daughter picking herself apart or my son to be critical of women's bodies? So not only do I try to refrain from verbalizing my disappointment in my body, but I am also working on retraining my thoughts towards my body. I want to model a healthy attitude for my daughter to adopt by loving and appreciating my body and taking care of it. I am so happy that my breasts have worked to be able to nurse.

I still struggle with the depressing body image, and our culture totally encourages pointing out our physical flaws, but I'm doing my best to counteract that natural inclination. I'm trying to focus on the positive, and on what I can control--exercise, doing my hair and make-up, and then most helpful of all I got a great Victoria Secret padded pushup bra (called "Very Sexy") so at least I look good in clothes, and some sexy underwear to match to help me feel very feminine and desirable (believe me, my husband loves it. He was complaining about how much it cost but stopped in his tracks as soon as I tried them on. He immediately changed his mind and decided that I needed some good underwear instead of just the Walmart granny panties I usually buy. He keeps suggesting that I wear the new undies). The bra is my much cheaper version of a boob job, LOL :) And of course there's the other things I try to focus on that matter even more than how I look--how I act, how I treat others, what type of mother I am, loving myself, etc. But I understand what you're going through, and I'm sorry you have to deal with this too.

Hi D.,

You are not alone, I did not have big breast before I had children, but I swelled to a 36D during my pregnancies. After breast feeding I was left with less then I started with :{ I was also blessed with great hips for birthing babies, so clothes shopping was really the pits. I considered all my options and finally decided to have breast implants. I can honestly say that I have never regretted it. I did ALOT of research before I finally did it. It was my choice, but I had the full support of my husband. family and friends. Unless I told you that I had it done, you would never be able to tell, and clothes shopping is sooo much more enjoyable for me. Like I said, I did alot of research and if you would like any info or have any questions, please feel free to email me. You would be amazed at how many women out there have had implants done, are saving to have them done, or want to have them done.

I've actually dealt with this my entire life. It didn't suddenly happen after I had my son, so I spent all my growing up feeling embarrassed. Not only was I small and an odd size, between a 34A and B, but I also just naturally had deflated breasts. Bras are not meant for this. It is something you need to learn to love.
As far as bras go, I'm so excited to say that I've found some that fit and actually make me feel sexy. They talk about bras needing to be certain shapes to fit right, I don't like those kinds. It got a lace bra at the gap once only to find out it actually fit! And made me look damn good too. Just yesterday I tried another lace bra on at forever 21, and it also held me wonderfully. The trick was, I think to find a lace bra that has a secondary piece that runs along the top of the cup. Because it pulls it in in a way. So it doesn't lay like an open cup that your breast is just kind of awkwardly sitting in, rather, it forms to it. The lace is the key, I think, which for me, it's like winning the lottery that the bras that actually seem to work get to be the pretty ones.
Good luck, and please love your body and self despite it all. It's an adjustment, but it doesn't change who you are.

You might want to consider reprogramming your body's self image through hypnotism.
As strange as it may sound, it's relaxing and can work well with any herbal supplements, etc.
I really like Wendi Freisen and she has a website that's wendi.com . She offers a wide range of programs and a full year money back guarantee if you're not satisfied (I'm pretty sure). Funny, but we are often our own best treatment.
Hope this helps

D.,
I have been in your shoes! I have 4 kids, now 8, 6, 4 & 2. We are expecting our 5th & Final in October! I have breastfed all 4 and will breastfeed the next one. I had my boob's done December 2007 and was pregnant January of 2008. I had mine done for the same reasons. I was never really big growing up, I was so athletic my boobs were in sports bra's most my high school life. I vowed I'd have my boob's done before I even had kids and my husband supported me then and even when I had the surgery. I literally had skin sacs from breastfeeding my 4 kids. Sex, was never that great cause I was too conscious of my skin sacs! After our 4th child I worked out and had my body back to my prepregnancy size, it was great besides th boobs. I still never wanted to shop for clothes and bathing suits & my friends and family couldn't understand why I would still cover myself up. Now with my new "Girls" as I call them, I haven't felt more like a woman in my entire life! I love them. I feel so good even pregnant with our 5th, where even before my boobs never got very big pregnant. I did years and years of research before I even had my boobs done, probably about 10 years cause I researched before kids, and researched after each kid. Anyways, the choice is a very personal choice, but I'm very happy with my choice! God bless! A. G

All women lose something after having children, whether or not they breastfeed. But, usually about three years after your last child, they return. Exercise helps for the chest muscles underneath, too. I had the same thing happen, and they returned when my youngest was three.

Hi D.,

I've tried Herbal Grobust which you can purchase at GNC. It did help me. I hope that this helps!

I.

Hi! I hope you realize you're not alone now! Lots of posts! Sometimes even that helps. I am currently nursing my 4th child and was at a 34AA BEFORE I even started nursing, so you can just imagine where that leaves me when I finish nursing! However, I am also a person who does not like feeling "fake." I rarely even wear, or have worn, padded bras because they just bother me. I hope your husband is a big enough man to love you for who you are and not for what you have (or don't have) ;) I also would not ever get a job done--I just wouldn't feel right doing it, and there seem to be so many risks. I am so glad so many out there have made the comment that they definitely wouldn't change their body appearance for the kids that "did it to them!" so to speak. Good for all of you! That gives me a little more faith in the human race! That said, I did look into the herbal thing before this last pregnancy. That was one thing I felt okay about and that felt more "natural" to me. I didn't want big ones--I just wanted to shop for a bra outside of the "little girls section!" However, I did not even do the herbal thing a full year because I decided to have another baby. I first looked into just getting a pill from a company, only to find the following forum (see address below) which saved me from falling into the scams that many of them are. The women on this forum are serious about herbs and know a lot and do a lot of research. You might try looking at the forum. You have a lot of support (just like on this forum) and it is nice to hear other people's questions, etc. I never did it that seriously because in the back of my head I always knew I would be having more children. (Many say wait until you're finished or you may lose what you gain again...) The second link is more of a "main page" that gets you to the forum and lots of other things as well.

http://www.network54.com/Forum/371678/page-58

http://www.breastnexus.com/

I vote that all of us with wimpy chests buy our own pool and beach and hang out together! No one over a size A allowed! ha ha ha Just kidding. Never hurts to laugh about it among friends though! Good luck! Do what you feel is right (even if that is nothing) and don't fall into pressure from the world about what a "real woman" looks like. If everyone in the world were a lot more honest about their looks, the rest of us wouldn't feel so bad!

Awww honey! I'm small also but I feel there's nothing more feminine then a woman who has had the chance to nurse her children. That's what they are there for!!! I am still nursing and getting smaller. I am also a bit lopsided because my daughter favors one breast over the other. This makes me glad I'm smaller as it's harder to tell. I make jokes like 'I had a baby to get bigger boobs! Man I got ripped off!' hehe but seriously it's all about how you FEEL. I feel hot and sexy walking around in my oversized PJ's and slippers and so I seem hot to my husband. Haven't you ever seen someone who was 'technically' pretty but not very attractive? (or vice-versa). It really is all about inner confidence. Stop worrying what you ought to look like and start loving what you DO look like...and then strut your stuff mama!! Good luck!

D.,
I totally understand how you feel,but in the opposite way.I was also a 34B before I had my children(3).After my first son,I went to a size 38C and have consistently stayed at that size,however,since I did breastfeed all 3 of my children,I am left with the same effect:saggy deflated boobs.I am also very self conscience of this as well when being intimate with my Husband,but you have to learn to be comfortable in your own skin.It's easier said than done....I know!
You are against breast augmentation,and I would get them in a heart beat(along with a nip tuck here and there as well),but cannot afford surgery!
So,the only thing that I have been able to do is learn to love myself and my body(still in the process)and it helps temendously that my Husband tells me he loves me the way I am.We have been together 11 yrs married 10..so he has had time to learn to say the right thing!(LOL)No,I know he sincerely means it!
You can also think of it this way...would you rather have perky,upright,voluptuos 34B boobs and NO KIDS,OR saggy deflated boobs AND have your kids,which I know bring so much joy and pleasure to your life?I myself cannot imagine myself without any of my boys,10,5, and 3.
I still have kept on a significant amount of weight and have a hard time accepting that as well,but it is what it is.So,as difficult as it is to deal with the fact that your body has changed,it's necessary to accept it and embrace it!
As far as the breast enhancing pills..I don't think that works.No pill can make saggy skin get back the elasticity again or get fuller for that matter!!
it's not the most devastating thing...just hold comfort in the fact that there are millions of other Moms who are going through the same thing!!!Cheer up!All of us have something that we don't like about our body..we're our worst critics!So,instead of looking at the negative,look at the positive your pregancies have brought!There's not really any other way to look at it.
I H. I was of SOME comfort or help!

HI i hope you dont get Breast Implants.I got saline implants in my 20.Biggest mistake ive ever made.I got very sick from them and i put my girls at risk had them while i was pregnant and nursed them.If you plan to get pregnant you could harm your child and yourself.
Some woman may not get sick for awhile but then things will happen with your hormones,memory loss,pain and so on you will wonder what is going on and alot of doctors say saline and silicone implants dont make you sick.
Dr kolb got sick from implants and helps woman get them out and does fat transfer to breast.
There are 38 chemicals just on the shell of saline and silicone implants.Saline grow mold on the inside and outside over time. i had mold on the inside thank God it didnt leak or i would have gotten sicker.Saline is suppose to be at 78 degrees.Are body is 98degrees
I got my implants taken out 2 1/2 yrs still trying to get toxins out of my body.There are so many kids getting sick to from breast implants they say it cant affect your kids when your pregnant are nursing.
In no im i trying to upset you.
Here are some websites to check out.

www.breastimplantawareness.org
www.truthaboutbreastimplants.com
The truth about saline and silicone implants how they harm us and are kids
Support groups for kids
http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/siliconekids/

Saline and silicone support group

http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/SalineSupport/
http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/SalineSupport/files

God bless M.

Dear D.,

I have recommended this product in the past from personal experience, but not for this problem. But it certainly does what you are looking for! I, too, had very saggy flat breasts until I used real, natural (from the wild yam) progesterone cream daily. You are young, so you will need to use it twice daily, with a week or two break each month. The best brands I've found in Health food, whole food, and drug stores are: Jason, Emerita, and a couple of others. You can also order it from a company called HM Enterprises online, which was started by the late Dr. John Lee, who invented the first product called "Happy PMS." This one comes in measured doses from a narrow cannister with a push-button. The important thing is that you make sure on the label or through the manufacturer that there are at least 400mg per oz. of progersterone in the cream (Most come in two-ounce containers). It helps your mood swings, or other pms problems as well. Give it a try--it really has worked for me for 15 years!
K.

I'm glad you posted this. There are obviously more of us than I would have guessed! After breastfeeding three children each for over a year I went from reasonable but small to nothing at all. I've had a good friend actually question whether I was really capable of breastfeeding given that I'm so flat.

My youngest is now seven and while I'm never thrilled with being flat, I have gained some perspective. I have extremely good health. So many don't - and would I trade it? Never!! - and it follows that I would not put my health at risk with an operation to increase my breast size. Also, my daughter takes ballet from a woman who danced professionally, and who still has the "ballet body" - which includes slenderness from tip to toe. She looks fabulous. I think we're not all supposed to look the same.

Health, energy, and a positive self image are sexy. Take care and good luck!

Hi D.

Just read your quest about saggy deflated boobs, Be glad you have them, You can always build them up, I just lost one of my breast with breast cancer. I have had two sugeries and getting ready to go for another surgery in two to three months, Sounds like you have a wonderful husband and family, your breast are only a very small part of you. Please be very careful about the pills your taking, Not to safe, I'm going to a very good surgeron if you would like his number just write me back. Good Luck L.

I had the same things happen to me - from a 34B to a 34A. it bothers me also and until I get breast augmentation, I am wearing inserts from www.americansilicone.com.
I wear a 34B, padded bra because they seem to stay better in those types of bras. You can wear them to the gym and in the pool. They are comfortable and look natural. Just wear them at the base of the bra and your breasts sit on top! Herbal supplements don't work.

Well if I didn't know better, I'd think I had written your post. :) I feel the same way, 2 children which were both breast fed. I too was a B before and now...well a whatever size you call it. My 2 best friends have had breast implants (after children) and of course they're super super, beautiful...however I decided that it's not for me (but VERY VERY tempting ;) ) I recently started working out at the gym, focusing on build all 3 pectoralis majors and pectoralis minor.
My husband says he actually is noticing a difference. Don't get me wrong--it's not "a miracle" but i am getting some lift and some toning, and also by building the muscles it looks like I have a smidge of cleavage even though I'm an A cup.
Check out your options, decide what feels best to you. For me buying them seemed fine, but the upkeep of fake breasts is more work than I wanted (i.e.--must wear a bra 99% of the time, regular MRI's, and a good possibility that they'll have to be redone in about 10 years.) Too much hassle for me as of right now.
Hope this helps. I know how bad it can make you feel, I shopped for jeans the other day with my kids...and when I left, I actually did bawl.(I have a fairly normal average shape, so I decided the clothing companies suck at making clothes!! :) )
Hava a great night!
S.

I'm sorry, D., that you are feeling this way. I look at mine after 3 kids (breastfeeding all 3) & I feel saggy as well! My hubby has never mentioned them & I wonder if your's thinks about them too..... there is so much emphasis in the world about how us women look, but I recently heard a survey that said guys really don't think their wives need to change. Your body change was gradual & therefore, your hubby is not all of a sudden shocked my the change in your body.... you are harder on yourself than he it I am sure of it! I encourage you to talk to your hubby about this.... he may have some encouraging things to say as well..... God has made you wonderful & you look beautiful no matter what your bra size!

Well I can say I know how you feel! I was the exact same as you. I tried the pills and they didn't do a thing! So I went to the department store and got a set of those silicone things you put n your bra and it ads at least a cup size. Finally I got implants. It was the best thing I ever did! It makes you feel better and helps with your confidence! I'd recommend it!

D.,
I feel your pain! The same thing happened to me. I have always been 100% against plastic surgery, I think it feeds the low self esteem that society has wrapped up in physical appearance. It felt different when I was suddenly faced with a terrible body! Flat, saggy breasts and terrible stretch marks!
It took a little while, but I had to remind myself that those things were fairly earned. I asked myself if I would have traded breast feeding for my appearance, if I had known the outcome, and the answer was OF COURSE NOT! That helped, knowing that I wouldn't change it if I could. And even though I had a problem with it, my husband never did. And still doesn't! So, I haven't done anything to try to fix it, just adjusted my thinking. And now I'm okay with it. They're a reminder that you did the right thing by your children. After all, that IS what they're for!
B. S

Hey D.,
I know what you're going through.

After getting pregnant at age 15, and going from an A cup to a C in less than a month, I was at first happy to have them bigger... and then after the pregnancy, and over the last few years, they slowly went back to a smaller cup, which took away any perkiness. For the last month I've been trying a natural lifting cream, combined with arms & breast exercises & a consistently healthy diet.

There hasn't been any "WOW" perky results yet, although mentally and physically I'm feeling great - and my arms and chest really are "seeming" to tone up too. It is a good feeling in knowing that at least there are things you can try before surgery.

My advice to you and others struggling with this or any type of dissatisfaction, is that we shouldn't put ourselves up to having high expectations for amazing results from either creams + exercise + diet, and from surgery - as I've seen some "so-so" and just downright horrible results from that.

The best approach would be to come to a realization within yourself, that things might not change exactly as you wish them to, and to try and accept that situation... then put forth all the love you have for yourself into caring for your body the best that you can. No matter what, that way of thinking will bring positive results in one form or another.

D....here is some advice from a 51 yr. old grandma who is dealing with the same problem with her own daughter who is 26 and nursed 2 kids in the last 3 yrs. I nursed my last 2 babies and had the same problem...guess what...it does go away! My daughter doesn't like the fact that my breasts look nicer than hers. No, I didn't do anything...natures does take over! But exercise to build em up will definitely help!! Get some 3 lb. weights...you lift up your kids enough I'm sure and that helps too!
Like some others said...be grateful you have them. You are beautiful with any size! Vicky Secrets have some great ideas too!
((hugs)) S.

I breastfed all 4 of my children and the last three for 2 years. I had trouble fitting into any bras and I hated looking totally flat. I just went down a size. For example, I started buying size 34A instead of 36A. Maybe if you went down to 32A it will fit better. And there is a certain style that I have to buy. It is the padded ones that the cup doesn't come too high and seems to support or push up. Don't let your smallness effect how you interact with your husband. Be proud of what you have and satisfy your husband no matter what you look like. My husband always appreciates my breasts and it kind of surprised me at first. He loves me for me and we are able to enjoy each other...I had the attitude that I'm not totally flat so I'll work with what I do have. lol I wear bras that don't make me look flat. I had to try different styles to see what worked for me. I was a late bloomer and small my whole life. This is the first time that I feel confident with my looks...

Dear D.,

That's exactly my story too. I got the boob job! I couldn't be happier. Unfortunatly there is nothing you can do about the side effects of nursing. Those of us that started off with little in the first place get saggy little lumps of skin with a nipple at the end and those that started off with larger breasts get long stretched out boobs down to their belly. You've seen National Geographics... that's the cold hard truth right there! The only cure for that insecure lack of sexy feeling is the "boob job". I got mine about 10 years ago and I'm so glad I did. The most painful part is paying for it, but I suggest you look into it... you won't be sorry. If you actually do, I suggest also that you have them put in through your armpit. There is no scar and it's less painful. Unfortunatly I didn't do it that way but I know many that have. I also saw someone wrote refering Dr. Shaw. He is an awesome Doctor and I would also tell you to check him out. There is usually a long wait for him and might be a charge for his consultation but don't let that hold you back from talking with him. P.

I'm in the same boat. I shopped around until i found a really good bra i liked, that helped my clothes fit right and look good. then i ordered as many as i could from the manufacturer. I also found a product, i think from macy's that is a foam insert to put in the bra under the breast, for special events that those kind of dresses needed. Once when i was in a really good bathing suit shop, where they actually fit you, the suits are sold with inserts of foam to put in a pocket of the top depending on the size you want to portray. I think my husband wishes i would get permanant fake boobs but i'm not into surgery. There are many benefits to plastic surgery (such as not having to wear a bra)but one downside for me is that i would "feel fat" with permanently bigger boobs, although that makes no sense.

Try some inserts, and a good bra for awhile and see how you feel. Who knows, you might have another chid (It happens when you least expect it) so it is best to wait before doing anything drastic.

Intimacy usually comes when you are feeling good about yourself, somehow husbands sense it, so don't worry about that right now. Just organize yourself enough to make some energy for the 2 of you even though your kids are still so young.

Good luck, and take it slow.

D.,

You have hit a cord with all of us! Who wouldn't love their breasts to look the way they did full of milk. Try pushups, the exercise and the bra. I read through the other responses. My fav. is the workout advice. It also is VERY good for your bones to lift free weights. I also saw lots of advice re: getting the surgery, just say no. Think of you overall health.

STOP reading fasion mags, and/or comparing your bod to women in the media, or hollywood or the lady you work with. this is the hardest thing to do in the world, but YOU CAN DO IT!! and eat some peanut butter. and avacados. and extra virgin olive oil. splurge on the good stuff and keep it for yourself. the good fats in these foods plumps the fat cells you do have. i'm a PB fiend and my boobs got a little saggy but kept their roundy. no harm in trying! boob jobs are such a self absorbed surgery, and you might need "maintnance," gravity works on fake ones too.
good luck to you. us "wimmin" judge ourself so harshly then turn around and tell our gal pals how beatiful they are. pretty skin, eyes, hair and frame, why not let those honnors go to ourselves?

D.: This is kind of weird for me to write too. I had the same problem. I was size B and after breastfeeding two boys, I became an "almost A". I hated the way my clothes looked. I did consider surgery, but I scar easily (keloide) and I was told that breast augmentation or reduction are the most painful of all cosmetic surgeries. Whether it's true or not, it's a personal choice not to be scarred.
But my husband played a big role in keeping me surgery free. I always covered myself when we were together, until he told me it was not a problem, he loved me and liked the way I looked, including stretch marks and everything that came with the pregnancy and delivery. He loved me more for that! Now I've come to call it my personal Body Art. Now that he has passed away and I have had other sexual partners, they have actually told me they like the way my breasts look. A lot of men like small breasts, I couldn't know if your husband is one of them. But besides trying to find the best bra and inserts for you, and exercising and all the other things the other ladies suggested, I would also suggest looking for reassurance in your husband. Some times it takes someone to tell us we are perfect just the way we are. And It's done wonders in my life.
Just a little extra: my husband always said: What doesn't fit in the hand, is a waste. Just a personal opinion. But I hope it helps.
Wish you the best.
C..

I feel the same way. I never minded before that I had smaller breasts but after breastfeeding my kids and them getting smaller I feel much more self conscious. I have had conversations with my husband about it. We have gone together to visit with doctors. And for the last 2 years I have been seriously thinking about getting a boob job. I think this christmas I will. I told my husband that that is all I want (a little more expensive than the average Christmas gift). He agrees that it is important for me to feel good both for me and for us. And don't think so negatively about a boob job. It is not like you are going to make your self huge. You are just going to go get back what you had 6 years ago. there is nothing wrong with that. In fact there is nothing wrong with boob jobs in general as long as you are doing it for the right reasons.

This is just another area where life isn't fair. I think we all want what we don't have to some degree - the grass is always greener, etc... I was hoping so badly my breasts would shrink after breasfeeding like people had complained about - no such luck, I haven't been smaller than a 34DD since I was 15. I'm a little heavy now - wasn't then. Anyway, besides wishing I could switch you places or just hook up a magic machine and transfer some of my breasts to you - maybe my back would stop hurting - I honestly would advise reconsidering surgery. I know a lot of people that have surgery do it for the wrong reasons, but that doesn't mean you would be. In just the little paragraph you wrote I can hear your pain. As if any woman needs one more reason to feel bad about her body. It sounds like this is affecting you on many levels and interfering with a healthy relationship with your spouse. Every one I know that has had breast surgery - enlargement and reduction - has felt better afterward. I'm not usually a supporter of plastic surgery and I think we all need to learn to be happy with the beautiful bodies God gives us, but putting back what used to be there isn't the same to me. Even if you never had any breasts and now wanted them I don't think it's wrong to do something that will make you feel good about your appearance because it affects so much of the rest of your life too. I hope you find/do something that will help feel good about your body. Kudos for breastfeeding both your babies for so long - that is true motherly love and sacrifice. In the meantime, maybe try some new lingerie that accentuates some of your other features for now - every woman should feel pretty.

I hear you, a boob job is a personal choice and an expensive one.you are also are putting your life at risk by going under....i am a nurse and a mother of 3...BF all 3 and yes my boobs have deflated. It's from the fat loss from BF and gravity, i don't care, neither does my husband of 17 years...I am still beautiful.when are women ever going to love their bodies and thank god for your health and your babies and STOP treating BOOBS as a FASHION ACCESSORY.
A. R