My 2 almost 3 year old daughter attends pre-school 3 days a week. She is completely potty trained at home. She absolutely refuses to use the potty at school. Not sure why. We have tried letting her use the on in the classroom and the one in the hallway were she can close the door and have some privacy. Nothing is working so she holds it the 4 hours she is there. Today she had an accident. I really don't want to resort to sending her in a pull-up. We went straight from diaper to panties. Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated.
A. M
Thanks for all the advice. She is going on a week of using the potty at school. Her daddy told her he would take her to buy a prize. I tried this numerous times and it didn't work. Can you tell she is a daddy's girl.
Why don't you try telling her if she uses the potty at daycare that you will get her something on the way home even if it is a piece of candy. I know people think this is bribing, but I did this with my two sons taking them to the doctor and they learned not to cry when they got shots. They knew that they would get ice cream on the way home.
she might be shy, my son was shy of having someone else watching over him, and still is to this day sometimes, its just harder when mommy aint there.... good luck
My daughter did the same thing at daycare. The potty was so much bigger and she actually fell in, and that is what made her all of a sudden refuse to go. I would suggest some kind of reward system, take her there to the bathroom as soon as you get there and also when you pick her up, and make a little chart that she can put in her cubby with stickers for when she goes on her own. Reward her with time, or something that she would want.
the best thing to do is jsut ask her why she doesn't want to use the potty at school. maybe she's jsut playing to hard and forgets, or she's scared or embarrassed, or worst case scenario...this happend to my little sister...one of the other kids may have touched her inappropriately and now she's jsut scared it will happen again. just talk calmly to her and see if you can get to the root of the problem. and tell her if she continues to hold it in, she'll keep having accidents in front of her friends or her pee pee might get sick and she'll have to go to the doctor and get a shot to make it better. congrats on her being trained and congrats on the new baby, 12-26 is my birthday too.
Do make sure that the potty at daycare is as clean as yours at home? My girls are both sticklers for a clean bathroom and my 2 1/2 year old will not touch a potty with weird markings or spots, anything.
my daughter had this same problem. hers turned out to be a fear of the toilet. the potty at school had the open front seat found in public restrooms, ours at home are a complete circle. we sent a portable potty seat to school for all of the kids to use. this helped her a lot.
Hmmm...interesting situation. Couple of things to consider, (1)maybe she is having too much fun and doesn't stop to go-best case; (2)did she start daycare as you neared the birth of her sister or shortly after? She may be rebelling or feels displaced; (3)talk to her about this while you are sitting on the floor cross-legged and at eye level. This situation can be intensified if you are looking down at her while asking about it. Get on her level and tell her a story about a little who was holding her pee at daycare and how proud her mom was when she starting going at home. Sometimes talking in the form of a story will help her tell what is going on...Good luck.
She might just be doing it out of spite because of the new baby. It may be nothing that you are doing or the teachers at school are doing. Does the baby go to daycare with her? If she does not that may be the problem she seems to think that the baby is cared for more because she has to leave mommy and the baby does not. Maybe you need to explain to her that her sister uses the bathroom in her diaper and that she is a big girl now and she needs to potty like mommy on the big girl potty. That is a really tough decision to make about what to do. The whole reason she is probably having issues is because of the new baby she feels like she is having to grow up sooner than she wants to.
