Potty Training - Barrigada,GU

Updated on February 22, 2010
M.M. asks from Barrigada, GU
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i need advice potty training tips. My 2year 4month old girl is somewhat hesitant to be potty trained. We succeeded once and then she went back to not wanting to potty. She does not tell me when she needs to pee or poo and when I put on training pants she pees and poos in it. I've even tried seperating her potty top and put it on the adult toilet but she is hesitant as well. i was told if I go cold turkey by letting her wear underwear and let her feel the pee go down her leg then she'll want to potty. Help I need some advice.

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R.B.

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I also did the 3 day potty training with Lori Jensen and it worked! I had a 2 1/2 year old son who showed no signs of potty training and he pee'd, pooped and went throught the night ALL fine in just a few days. You have to do exactly what she says but it worked for us! Good luck! :)

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T.A.

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She is still very young. Sounds like she isn't ready. Ease up a bit and she will learn in her own time.

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J.L.

answers from San Diego on

Hi M., I have potty trained more kids that you can imangine, my advice to you is reward and Discipline, discipline seems to be the one ingredeint that is missing in potty training today, J. l.

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Hi M., I have potty trained more kids that you can imangine, my advice to you is reward and Discipline, discipline seems to be the one ingredeint that is missing in potty training today, J. l.

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C.F.

answers from San Luis Obispo on

I used the 3 day potty training method and she says to get rid diapers all together. If you want the ebook I will send it to you just email ____@____.com.

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M.C.

answers from Honolulu on

Let her decide. She obviously knows what to do. Take her shopping and get her the most awesome princess panties with sparkles and put them in her drawer. Tell her, "when you are ready to use the potty, you can wear your new princess panties and keep them nice and clean." Keep telling her that she can choose when she is ready to use the potty. One day, she will surprise you by changing into them herself and using the potty! Expect a few accidents, but she will be potty trained in five minutes when she decides to do it!

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D.M.

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She may not be ready yet. Some girls aren't ready until they are closer to 3. Maybe take a month or two off and try again. There's no rush at this point.

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M.L.

answers from Los Angeles on

she's not ready. you just need to wait. don't fight a battle that you can't win. she'll let you know when she's ready. this should be a positive exerience for her, not a punishment :)

T.C.

answers from Albuquerque on

Hi M.,
You say you have already successfully potty trained her, but you didn't describe what that meant: was she potty-trained a day? a month? She got 90% accurate, then quit?

My first son taught me a wonderful lesson: once he was "potty trained," that didn't mean we (his parents) could suddenly relax, and he'd do fine on his own. He needed direct guidance from us for pretty much a year after potty-training to keep from having accidents AND to keep him from deciding *he* was going to start refusing to use the potty (after all, at the age of 2 and 3, they are quick to try and take control of almost everything: lol!

Every "accident" and every "setback" I could directly attribute to me (or papa) "assuming" he could handle pottying all by himself. Even now, at age 4, we still "remind" him to go poop sometimes!

Our now-2 year old is the same: technically "potty trained," but definitely not okay to run things on his own :)

If your little sweetie really was potty trained, then she still is: just get her back on a scheduled routine, let her know you're in charge of the plumbing again, and she'll be fine.

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J.V.

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It takes time and practice for them to learn everything involved in going on the potty. Until then, you need to help her along. If she knows the difference between wet and dry, then the next step is teaching her the muscle control. If she has the muscle control, then it's about timing and really reading the body.

To help along, if she is able to go on the potty already, then you need to help with the timing and confidence. I think a lot of potty resistance is kids lacking confidence and being unsure about what they are suppose to do. So therein lies your job: build self-esteem and help her to be successful at this very important milestone. Put her on a schedule, with rules, and stop asking, just take her: first thing in the morning, before leaving the house, before lunch, etc. It's important that YOU go at these times as well, so when you take her, ask her," do you want to go before mommy or after mommy? Do you want to go on mommy's potty or on your potty?" When my daughter showed serious resistance, I'd explain to her why she needed to go, and then I'd say to her," are you walking or is mommy carrying you?" I also read "too big for diapers" and "Everybody poops" to her. I think the books are important, especially if your kid loves books. If I was you, I'd spend some time reading the books (a few days), and then tell her that "soon we are going to use the potty for our pee and poop." Then literally pick a day and don't turn back, really work the potty training.

It takes a good 12-15 hits before they really "get" the control. If you are having issues with that, then you need to make some "stress free" bathroom playtime, where you read to her or play with her while in the bathroom, with no pressure on her to actually go. It will help if it's around a time when she needs to go, and if she ends up going in her pants after you are done, take that as a performance anxiety sign --something she will get over. Also, put her poop in the toilet everyday, with her watching. Just keep repeating, "pee and poop go in the potty." Don't show any negative emotion over the accidents, just remind her where pee and poop go, ask her from time to time to tell you where it goes, and tell her that "tomorrow, we will get your pee and poop in the toilet. I know we will. Accidents happen."

You could also try a boot camp. I didn't do a boot camp because I thought my daughter was too young and I didn't want to pressure her. I have a fully trained (day and night) 23 month old, i.e. she takes herself to the potty when she needs to go, with mommy helping with her pants.

J.S.

answers from Memphis on

My daughter is right around the same age, so I've been getting lots of advice lately, both wanted and unwanted. Here are some of the most valuable pointers I've gotten.

-If your daughter likes to "read" books, buy a few for her about potty training. Davis Kidd has a great one about potty training pirates.
-When you have a lot of time to spend at home, change her into big-girl panties and constantly remind her to go sit on the potty.
-One friend of mine kept the potty seat in the living room during the day and would have her little girl sit on it any time she had a cup, and that worked out really well.
-Teach her to wave bye-bye to her potties when she flushes. My daughter gets the biggest kick out of flushing the toilet and waving bye-bye to the poop.
-Let her follow you into the bathroom when you go; It's awful giving up the only two minutes you get to yourself all day, but toddlers love to copy their mommies, so it works as great encouragement to see you go.

Good luck!

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B.C.

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I started my son in earnest about a month ago (he is now 2 yrs, 2 mos old). All the books and people are very adamant about not starting training until the child is ready, but how the hell do you know if they're ready?

There are a few signs:
- the child expresses genuine interest
- longer periods without urinating, such as through a two-hour nap (hard to know, but you can try testing this by putting on a clean diaper before a nap)
- regularity for #2s (like always early morning and almost always around 5 pm)
Many books will offer more signs of readiness.

In retrospect we probably started a month or two early, but his pals at "school" were using the potty, and one day he refused to put his diaper back on, so I figured we were committed.

At school (3 days/wk) he now has no accidents during the day. At home he has a few. I put this down to the fact that every time any kid walks by a teacher at school, they slam them on the potty. His teachers belong to the camp that believes if a kid gets wet over and over again, eventually the light bulb will go on and s/he will announce the need in advance.

At home I am often doing something else or lose track of time (45 minutes is about the max between visits), so he has more accidents at home, but these are becoming less frequent by the week.

At other people's houses, whether I am there or not (grandma's, visiting at friends' houses), he often does not get to the potty in time. I figure he is a bit apprehensive about asking to go in the presence of others, or he is simply in less familiar surroundings.

At naptimes sometimes he wears a pull-up, sometimes just underwear. Overnights is still a regular diaper.

Like everything else, this is a process. It is taking longer than I wanted, but his improvements are noticeable from week to week. Patience is key, and sticking to it probably even more important.

Summer is better to be dealing with this in winter -- pants off the whole day if possible, inside and out, when you are at home.

And once they start announcing, you cannot let them fail, even if you have to pull over in the car and let them do their business on the side of the road -- have plastic bags and wipes at the ready!

Good luck.

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B.S.

answers from Honolulu on

From what I understand it's a lot easier if a child trains when he/she is the one who initiates it. If you NEED her to be trained now then you'll probably have to go cold turkey, but I have heard from a lot of people that if you relax and wait a couple of months it's a lot easier. My son (who's 28 months also) is about 1/3 the way potty trained, somedays he'll tell me when he needs to go and other days he refuses to go near the potty. I bought Elmo's Potty time and he really enjoys watching the movie and reading the book . I try and get him other potty training books and movies from the library whenever I can and it keeps him interested. I have a feeling that he'll just decide to commit to it one of these days. Good luck!

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T.P.

answers from Los Angeles on

She is simply not ready. She's only 2 years old, still very young. And don;t press her, she'll learn someday. Do you know any 7 year old that isn't potty trained? You don't want to make it a negative experience for her, but an accomplishment that she can feel real good about, in her own time. I know how hard it can be as a mom.......diaper expense, clean up etc...... I'm sure she'll learn in no time, but it's important to make her not feel less because of using diapers still (I'm not saying you're doing this, I have seen parents who have.) Best to you and your daughter........enjoy her to the fullest at this precious age!

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T.S.

answers from Los Angeles on

She's probably not ready. I think it takes time for children to develop the muscles that allow them to hold pee or poop until they can get to a potty. Until then they can get very frustrated. I would ask my daughter once or twice a day if she wanted to try using the potty. She would say no and I didn't push. She watched potty videos and read potty books for a couple months but would keep saying no if I asked her to try using the potty. I even let her pick out her own big girl underwear many months ago. Still no interest. Finally, when she was 3 years and 3 months old I asked her if she wanted to pick out some underwear and try using the potty that day. She said yes and she has had no accidents since. She even refuses to wear diapers at night and has had only one night time accident (only because she drank a bunch of milk before going to bed - we don't do that anymore BTW :). This was 3 months ago. My advice - keep asking but don't push - they'll know when they're ready. Just like everyone else says - your child will not be using diapers when they're in college :)

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M.B.

answers from Los Angeles on

Hi there,
If you shoot me an email at ____@____.com, I will forward you an on-line potty training book I have. It can be a long road, so be pacient.

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