Possible Pregnancy Nerves

I found out I was pregnat before my son was 1, they are 18 mmths apart almost to the day (accck!) I cried and cried and cried when I found out....I was so worried that I was taking precious mommy time away from my very special first born. plus I had a horrible birthing experience and had JUST taken my son out of his plagio band.....what type of mommy was I to have ANOTHER baby so soon. but now he is here and the love of my life another boy! I am blessed to have two beautiful sons (it took me a minute to get used to it though), I went thru a bout with some post partum but I get thru it every day because of their smiles. Tehy are my everything....

It's scary to think that you might go thru it again so soon, but it honestly is not as hard as everyone says. If you know how to pack and get out of the house with one, than you know how to get out of the house with two.

Take a test ASAP.....

-K.

I had a baby in Oct and found out five months later I was pregnant. My girls are 14 months apart and I wouldn't change a thing. It was really hard at first having a baby then having another baby but we made it through. Hang in there!

Things happen and sometimes we have no control over them. Here is my story...... I had a baby boy in August, and two and a half months later finally gave into my husbands and my desire for each other, used a condom. :) Then when I went in for my 3 month check up was told I was going to have another one....I had a girl the next August. My children are 11 1/2 months apart in age. They are the same age for 10 days every year. I raised them as if they were twins basically. They call them Irish twins. My kids are 20 and 21 now and I survived raising them and they are the best of friends with each other and with me. Fear not, the first year is the hardest, then when the first one can walk your life gets so much easier yet more challenging at the same time. They also start playing with each other. Enjoy-if this is what you want. I was thankful I chose to have my second one, as difficult as the decision was to make while holding a newborn. My daughter is my best friend and I feel blessed to have had her......planned or not.
E.

Let me just start out with HUGS. So sorry you are facing challenges at this wonderful time in your life. Periods can be irregular after having a child. I breastfed and did not get a period for a year and a half with the first one. I miss those days, lol. However, I also want to add that the biggest sign I had that I was pregnant with both of my kids what that I developed a yeast infection. I am sure that life will not give you more than you can handle. Hang in there sweetie, you will get through this. I hope everything works out the way you want it to. Good Luck!

T. Solar
Founder
www.theparentpack.org

My kids are just short of 16 months apart. I cried (not happy tears) when I found out I was pregnant. It took awhile to come to grips that OMG I was prego's again! How was I going to enjoy my son and my pregnancy? It took a few months I realized there is a reason for everything, then I found out I was having a girl! My dream come true one of each! They are 2 & 3 right now and I would do it all over again! They are great friends and I LOVE having them close together! Who know's maybe your not prego's but if you are (my Friends kids are 12 mo apart and she did it on purpose and loves it!) you will survive and your kids won't be neglected in anyway. You can do it! It's a fast ride but a wonderful one!
Best of luck and congrats if you are pregnant!

I got pregnant with my daughter when my son was 6.5 months old. I had a VERY difficult time adjusting to motherhood and was always stressed out and freaked out, even by the time my son was 6.5 months old. I can tell you this. By the time the second baby rolled in to town (thank God we get 9 months to adjust to the idea of having a baby) I had it together. Having a 2 year old and 1 year old at the same time is actually easier for me than only having one was at the beginning. In fact, I was so surprised by this, I am now 4 months pregnant with my third (and final). You may not be pregnant -- take a test and find out. And if you are, I assure you it gets easier with the second. You get better at it and you realize that you don't need to do everything perfectly for your kids to be happy and healthy. The second time around you know what you're doing and you already have all the stuff. In short, I too freaked out. Completely. My friends and family will attest to what an overwhelmed first time mom I was. The thought of two almost put me over the edge. The hardest part is the last trimester. Chasing a 1 year old while that pregnant is tiring. But once the baby was on the outside, I had my energy back and managed. The hardest part after the birth was nursing #2 while keeping an eye on #1, especially out in public, by myself, at the playground -- situations like that. I got a Hooter Hider. It changed my life. Once #2 stops nursing, you're home free. The jealousy factor for the first child is easier when they are younger too. They adjust very quickly. And remember, newborns sleep almost all the time. You'll have plenty of time to adjust. I hope that helps ease your mind. I know you don't believe me. I wouldn't have, but it's all true! Feel free to email me off the message board if you are pregnant and ever want to vent/commiserate. It helps to vent to someone who gets it. Venting to moms who are all joyful and together from the get go can just make you feel worse.

N.

I understand your situation. My son was nine months when I found out I was pregnant with twins and I was breastfeeding. It felt like I had triplets. Breastfeeding twins with an 18 month old who still gets up at night for a pacifier wasn't easy. all I am trying to say is don't panick because your hormones are wack after birth take a test first and if you are congrats because god will not give you something you can't handle.

It is normal to "changes " in your monthly cycle if you are breast feeding. Some women go w/o their period for the entire time they are breast feeding. Everyone is different, I would suggest talking to your OB/GYN about your concerns. Better safe than sorry! Hang in there

You know S., I am sitting here reading all your responses about people's lives and thinking - OMG! You are already regretting this beautiful blessing from God and you dont' even know if one is even created yet!!! And the thing that no one has mentioned is .. PROTECTION!!! You just had a baby six months ago and with everything you have been through- you never thought "o, maybe we should get on the IUD or birth control or something so THIS WILL NOT HAPPEN so fast". I mean, it is a blessing- and if you already hate the idea that you may be bringing another baby into this world- what good are you going to be to this one? It is not her/his fault that you and daddy didnt' plan the bro/sis coming so soon-
Sorry to be so blunt, but your question is "whooo me, I am scared and I may be prego again- what do I do?" Instead of saying, we are proud parents of a beautiful child 6 months old and may be prego with our 2nd blessing- please advice on what to expect-
I am going to say CONGRATULATIONS on your 2nd child, you are prego and enjoy the two siblings being close and each other's best friend. Good luck Im sure you will look back on this and smile and say- thank you God for your blessing, you must really love me that much.

I rode this very same roller coaster last month. I was late... VERY late! I got my period back 3 weeks after delivering so I envy you that you had a 3 month break! However, with all of my stressing and worrying, I caused myself some undue grief and it took longer for my period to start. I was SO relieved that I wasn't pregnant. I am choosing to call it quits after one baby... I want my sleep back.
Stop worrying about it. All you can do is test... go for a long walk and get some of that stress out of you. Like I said... worrying about it makes the stress levels go up and stress does affect our cycles.

Hi, I am a mother of 4 -- grandmother of 1 and one on the way.. my children range for 10 years old to 23 years old and my boys are 12 1/2 and almost 14.. they are 15 months apart. and "YES" , I was pregnant when my first was 6 months old.

My daugher with the one year old is now 4 months pregnant and the baby will be 18 months post the first.. she is 23.
Yes, the news can be a "shocker" but it will be okay. It is amazing how we are given what we need when we need it. Let your friends help and learn to say "YES" when offered help.
As women, we tend to want to "do it all".. Not a good idea with babys. WE NEED HELP!

Also, I am a nutritional consultant and the yeast thing needs to be addressed. Yeast/ Candida is a sugar feeder... white flour and sugar feeder... it is important to eat a healthy diet, one high in greens and stay off the sugar wheel, processed foods and preservatives. Candida emits over 85 + toxins in the body and can cause a host of problems to include muscle aches, fatigue, anxiety, memory fog, etc.

I would like to encourage you to take a look at a documentary I use to help spread information ...

It will only take 10 minutes and could change your long term health and that of your baby!

Go to www.sharethecause.com/live.

If you would like to talk with my further, I can be reached via the comment section or phone ..

Take Care of yourself and get some sleep.. L. M.

Dear S.,
Not to make light, but pregnancies are not unexpected if you are having sex. That is what causes babies.
I have heard wive's tales that you can't get pregnant while nursing, etc. But the truth is, you never know what your body will do during the time of extreme changes in hormones both during and after pregnancy. You may not be fertile for months, or you may be fertile almost immediately. The only way to avoid conceiving is to make sure that you have as reliable a method of birth control as possible. Lots and lots of little babies are born not too long after the first baby. It happens all the time.
If you want to put off having another baby for now, be proactive and speak with your OB/GYN about it right away.
If you are pregnant, you might as well go with it and think that it was meant to be. I personally know people that deliberately had their children that close. (I thought they were crazy). But, they knew that they wanted their children close together so they would get through the up all night and teething and diaper phase in one big lump and they felt their children would have a closer bond that way. That was their strategy. Then, after the second or third baby, one of them got fixed.
If you get another baby sooner than you planned, you will fall in love with it and all will be fine.
Take a deep breath and do what you did....ask for support.

Best wishes!

First off HUGS to you! My girls are 13 months 1 day apart. It was very hard at first dealing with the thought of having another baby when my daughter was so young already, then dealing with an infant and a toddler. Now I have a 1 year old and a 2 year old. We have our days of OMG!! craziness and we have great days too. My girls love each other so much and I cannot wait until they are older and can play with each other more and more. Things do get easier every day too!
Lots of hugs and good wishes your way!!!

Dear S.,

Calm your fears, if you are pregnant, fear won't change a thing. If you have an infection and it's not going away it could affect the baby. Does your husband know how you are feeling? Take a test, call your doctor. Many people have what some of us call "Irish Twins".....More work, yes...more love,YES YES.

Blessings...

I'm confused, do you mean it's now almost October 10th, not December? If so, that really isn't that long for someone who just had a baby 6 months ago. It took me a very long time to return to normal and have had irregular cycles. Did you take a test?

Why don't you take a pregnancy test? They are inexpensive and highly available.

I got (accidentally? right:-) pregnant with my second before my son was a year old and am very very happy to soon have two children less than 2 years apart. And nervous about how we can handle the infant and toddler together. Closer is better for us as we will have all the baby activities strung together instead of spread over many years, ie the 7PM curfew, lack of sleep, toddler toys everywhere, etc,

Hi S..

It is very common to have irregular periods the first year after having a baby. You are working but you didn't say if you are breast feeding. If so, that could also make you irregular. I wouldn't worry yet, but take a pregnancy test just to be sure. Stress can also cause irregular periods. I know you are going through a lot right now, but take some time for yourself and try to relax. If you find out you are pregnant, you will probably find out you are blessed to have them so close together. Either way, you need to take care of yourself. God bless you and I know everything will work out just fine for you.

1st off, be brave and take a preg.test. You need to know now. It's clear that not knowing is worse and driving you crazy- kinda sounds unlikely bc of condom, 1x... but you have to know! I know how it feels to avoid the pg test for many reasons (scared I wasn't, scared I was...) Periods can be crazy irregular in the 1st yr. of your babies life- not unusual at all. I got pregnant totally unexpectedly w/my 4th when my 3rd was 9 mos. (I know it's not the same), but I was worriedly excited- my husband completely overwhelmed. But, most of all, it is a HUGE blessing and even if you don't feel good, and you're chasing after little one(s)- it's SO SO SO worth it and I'd still consider you very very lucky and blessed! I was totally projectile vomiting too and had no family help and I still think that this is all the best time in life full of wonderment and excitement. You will be fine no matter what!

I know where you are coming from. My cycle has been screwed up since my daughter was born (It was like clockwork before) and she is 2 now and even on the pill it isn't regulated which I find weird. It is irregular so I just bought a box of pregnancy tests (some have 3 or 4 to a box)and keep them on hand just in case. My kids are all spread apart in age for a reason, I did not want to have 2 kids really close together. Anyway just take care of the infection and buy a test and take it one step at a time. I heard this and I believe it: If your pregnancy goes perfect with absolutley no problems it takes a minimum of a year for your body to get back to "normal" ie: weight, cycle, hormones etc. So if you didn't have a perfect pregnancy it takes more than a year to get back to "normal". Good luck and hang in there.

Couple of things, 1st relax! 2nd, have you taken a pregnancy test? If you would do that you would not have to be freaking out about a 2nd pregnancy. Your period is suppose to be crazy and erratic. My daughter is also 6 months and my period has yet to be predictable. When you break it down, a yeast infection, okay you are taking care of it. Learning to raise a son, well we all are learning as we go, hopefully you have some support. Most of us work as mothers. Lastly, take a pregnancy test a find out if you are pregnant. The only part that sounds scarry is the pregnancy part and that is easily resolved with a test. Relax, stop freaking out and deal with the situation. Take it one step at a time. Good luck.

Hi S., You do sound like you need a gtreat big hug. First of all slow down and rememeber everything will work out! Get a pregnacy test and know for sure. If you are expecting again, all of us "mama's" will be here for you! My periods never settled down until my daughter was eating more and nursing less. I was pregnant for the second time when my first was 9 months old. It was a lot of work, but there are things that will help like, getting them to nap at the same time, and the fact they will both never know what life is like without the other, so there are not a lot of jealousy issues. I now have 4 beautiful girls. Check things out with your doctor, because the stress of worrying could be contributing to your other health issues. If you are pregnant, We all wish you the best, and when you see that new litle face you will smile and wonder what all the worry was about.

S.,
Well I can sypathize. I got pregnant with our third child when the second was only 8 mos old. They are 18 months apart and we love them dearly. They are teenagers now, and when they were small it was like having twins at times, because they would both need attention at the same time. So,it could get a little hairy at times. I also know that having an infection can cause you to be late also. SO, hang on, and see what the outcome is. Just tackle one thing at a time. You have too many things on your plate right now with the new job too...just have some patience, and see what happens. By the way when I found out I was pg for the third time, I was in shock for about 1 week, I could not believe we were having a third child. We were planning on two. He turned out to be our only son. Hang in there.
W.