I Want Another Baby

Remind him that you probably won't get pregnant right away, and that there is still 40 weeks of waiting after you DO get pregnant. By the time the baby arrives, he'll be ready. And if you do get pregnant right away...ooops ;)

well do you know why he wants to wait or how long?

one more year wont put too much of a gap in their ages, and if your daughter is 5 or 6 when the new baby comes you'll have a great little helper :)

I dont see the reason for the wait. After all you are the one who has to carry the child. If he is waiting for "the right time" that may never happen. Having children is a natural part of life. Remind him that in the long run children are your future assests. The more you have the now the better off you will be when you become old and senile.

Find out why he wants to wait and then the two of you discuss his reasons in a calm way. Try to have an open mind. He could have some good reasons for wanting to wait and once you understand those you might agree. Or his reasons could be more emotional in nature and it is possible that once you accept his feelings he will be better able to agree with you. What is important is open communication without anger or frustration. You may need to have this discussion(s) with a neutral third person so that you can both be less emotional.

here is an interesting thing to think about when trying to decide when to have your next child. Child psychologist say that a child is most emotionally needy of their mother's attention between the ages of 3 and 5 and bringing a new child into your life takes up a lot of mom's time so the 3-5 year may feel abandoned and begin to resent the younger sibling and sometimes even mom and these feeling can develop personality traits that will carry through with them into adulthood before 3 they are able to adapt better because there needs from mom are more physical after 5 they become more helpful towards the new baby and are usually happy to know that the will have some one to play with.
This is not to say that you shouldn't try to have another child now it is just a good thing to keep in mind considering that you will be dealing with the older child acting up a little more and less time with you younger child.

K.,
I really don't think there is perfect time to have children. Haveing the support of your husband is great, so find out more about why he wants to wait. Plan it out what you each want out of this experience of another child in your life, all the plus and minuses. More then likely his fears of being responsiable for another life, that scares men, in general. Moms are more willing to give all that is needed automatically, because they go through all the hormones and emotions of pregnancy and delivery. Good luck to you both, tuff choices are not easy choices.
L.

I wanted a baby also when my daughter turned 3 1/2. I have a sister who's 3 1/2 years older than me and we are really close. I honestly believe that the farther the space is between your childrens' ages, the less they will have in common and the harder it will be for them to form a very close bond with eachother. My daughter is 4 now and her daddy and I have since split and even though it pains me to think that she might be an only child I think if it is meant to be it will happen eventually. The only suggestion I have in response to your question is that the first thing you need to do is have a serious discussion with him and try to find out why he wants to wait. Then let him know why you don't. I believe that a mother's instincts are almost never wrong but you don't want to push him too much.