Friend Has Offered Us House to Stay in for a Year, but I Am Allergic to Her Cats

Updated on April 04, 2011
L.U. asks from Kirkland, WA
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Hey moms - I just need a quick bit o' advice.
My girlfriend and her family are currently living out of the country and will not be living back here until June of 2012. The renters in her house are going to be moving out end of July and she has offered us to live in her house, RENT FREE, until they come back next year. We just need to keep the house up and take care of her 6 cats! Her cats need brushing and to be fed...other than that they pretty much hang out on their own in the attic (where most of her stuff is...it's an "open" attic), out in the neighborhood, and come home in the evening to eat and sleep.
The problem is that I am very allergic to cats. The downstairs of the house is all carpet, the middle floor is all wood, top floor is also wood (but we would never go up there, since that's where she has her stuff). We want to move in so we can spend thsoe 10 months saving money and paying off our credit card while also having enough money to baptize the kids and maybe save up to go to Disneyland. What do I do about the allergies?? I am breastfeeding (the baby is only 3 months, so I will be breastfeeding the whole time we are living there) and don't know if I can take (or should take) allergy medicine the whole time we are living there.
Advice?
L.

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Toni V. I don't know what you are talking about. You made quite a few assumptions.
Baptizing the kids doesn't cost money, it's my husband and his crazy Mexican ways...he always wants to have a big party! We would do that whether we live there or not, it just would be nice to have a little more money to do it with.
Yes, I am very allergic. But I am hoping that living in the 4,000 square foot house will give me limited contact with the cats. My husband knows he would be in charge of the cats, loving on them, brushing them, and feeding them....and then bathing when he was done. lol
Good to know that I would be able to take medication and it wouldn't effect the breastfeeding. She and I have been friends for 5 years so she knows how great this would be for us and knows how very very much I would appreciate it so we could save money.
THanks moms

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N.I.

answers from Portland on

I sent one answer through my phone but don't know if you received it so will send again.

Go to naet.com
This took care of my allergies and it is a reasonable expense.

N.

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L.G.

answers from Eugene on

A bargain is a bargain only if it doesn't cost you more than you can pay. This is no bargain. When you have cat allergies one short haired can be negotiable but 6 cats. You will be lucky not to spend nights in the ER.
It won't be free if you develop asthma instead of being allergic.

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A bargain is a bargain only if it doesn't cost you more than you can pay. This is no bargain. When you have cat allergies one short haired can be negotiable but 6 cats. You will be lucky not to spend nights in the ER.
It won't be free if you develop asthma instead of being allergic.

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A bargain is a bargain only if it doesn't cost you more than you can pay. This is no bargain. When you have cat allergies one short haired can be negotiable but 6 cats. You will be lucky not to spend nights in the ER.
It won't be free if you develop asthma instead of being allergic.

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P.M.

answers from Tampa on

I am allergic to any mammal... and I have 12 cats, 1 young child and pregnant with #2. I take claritin and zyrtec everyday ( 3 days of claritin, one day of zytrec) and the days where the plant pollen allergies are worse in addition to the allergies of animals - I take a benedryl.

Most Momma's will not have a decrease in breastmilk supply from the zyrtec or claritin. My daughter breastfed till she was 4.5 y/o and I have had at least 5 cats since I was 20 y/o (I'm 31 now). She has no allergies to anything or any foods.

Take the allergy meds and take the HUGE money saving offer your friend put on the table.

Even with the meds, if my cats accidentally scratch me or lick me too much in one spot, I get horrible hives/welts in that area. I love animals and know my reactions - so if I didn't take those daily allergy meds... then I'd be in trouble. Before I was a Nurse, and before I took Education studies... I wanted to be a Vet. LOL So animals are a part of me and I will not give them up for something as simple as an allergy that can be moderately controlled with anti-histamines.

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S.E.

answers from La Crosse on

I am allergic to cats...and we have 5. My solution is to bathe them every few weeks. I even use my shampoo. It gets rid of dander (which is a big cause for allergies). It depends on the severity of your allergy...but many people do get immunity by constant contact with an allergen.

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Y.C.

answers from New York on

Oh L., that would be amazing.
Talk to your doctor about it, maybe there is a medicine that you can take while breastfeeding, I will also talk to your husband and make a deal that he will be the one taking care of the cats as much as possible so you get the less amount of interaction with them.
With the money saved I would do a deep cleaning too.
I hope your doctor can give you something and that this can work in your favor, but if not, don't drive your self crazy about it, everything happens for a reason, take care.

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M.L.

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You need a doctor to answer this one - as soon as possible, so you can give your friend an answer. It may depend on the seriousness of your allergy. Perhaps you will be able to take some sort of medication to control it. You'll have to ask about the breastfeeding, too.

On the other hand, a dear friend of mine can come over to my house ONLY if she takes medication beforehand, and then ONLY for a couple of hours, because she is so seriously allergic to cats. Otherwise, she ends up in the hospital.

If housesitting/catsitting is dangerous to your health, all the money you'll possibly save is not worth it. Being healthy is more important; you can save money another, safer way.

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C.C.

answers from Visalia on

i am very very alergic to cats and dogs, i had 5 in and out of the house. i take prescription Advair500/50. works very well. i also have 3 dogs, lol. talk to your dr, and see if this would hinder ur child. if there is a will, there is a way.

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C.V.

answers from Los Angeles on

Gosh rent-free for a year?? My baby would be going to formula! Lol j/k but i'd check with your doc to see if there's a safe medicine to use while breastfeeding. That is indeed a lot of money you can save.

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A.H.

answers from San Francisco on

Tempting though it might be i'd let the offer go. You stated that you are "very" allergic to cats. What would you do if the allergy medicine was not enough to deal with constant bombardment your system would be dealing with?

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G.H.

answers from Chicago on

Wow, what a friend. You must jump on this deal. If DH gets lax about keeping up with the cats, find a neighbor girl & pay them to brush & bathe the cats. Congrats on your new arrangement.

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R.L.

answers from Chicago on

Can you try some things before you make the decision whether to move in or not? I know for some people, daily brushing (by your husband, not you) and vacuuming can be helpful, but six cats is a lot of cats. There are also products at the pet store that you put on the cats to supposedly help limit allergic reactions, not sure how good they are. I've been reading about air purifiers that some people seem to swear by. If all else fails, talk to an allergist to see if they can recommend something that would be OK to take while breastfeeding.

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S.B.

answers from Redding on

If you're very allergic, then it seems your answer is clear.
She's offering to help you out if you can help her out with her cats, but you already know you have an allergy.
Even though it's tempting, this might be one you have to turn down.
Medications may help....or not.
You don't want to take the risk of being miserable and then resenting the cats that you are supposed to take care of.
Rent free? Few get that option, but if there's a chance it will be a bad experience, I might humbly decline.

Just my opinion.

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N.D.

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we had a roommate that was allergic to cats. he had an inhaler before he moved in with us. he found that he was less allergic to cats while living with us. it all depends on your body. if you do decide to live there, it might be worth purchasing a hepa filter for your bedroom so you can sleep well at night.

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M.L.

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Talk to your Dr and see if allergy medicine is safe for breastfeeding, I know there are several that are safe, but prescription wise it's always good to ask.... especially depending on your allergy seriousness and that you would have to take them every day. Likely, your husband will be the one doing all the brushing/litter box, so it depends on what he can handle too. I know there is an allergy shot that is pretty effective that my husband took one time. Here is a list of some of the safe ones:
http://www.ehow.com/about_###-###-####_allergy-medicine-c...

I had no clue baptizing kids cost money, it's free at our church, and is when the kids reach an older age:
http://mormon.org/plan-of-happiness/

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S.M.

answers from Kansas City on

Well I can't imagine how you would get through for a whole year. It sounds nice and all. But it's a little too good to be true in your situation.

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A.G.

answers from Houston on

take the deal,take allergy shots, save your money for a year!....there are allergy meds you can take while b/f ing.

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T.V.

answers from San Francisco on

I would say speak with your allergist and see what your options are. You don't seem at all concerned about your friend's animals or their generous offer, just free rent. That also might be a clue that you should find a place and pay your way.

Blessings...

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T.N.

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I used to think I was mildly allergic to cats. I decided to get a cat, (stupid I know but I was living in a place where you couldn't have a dog, and i figured maybe it wouldn't be too bad).

Ended up on inhalers and oral medication bc i couldnt breath.

If you think it's a good idea, borrow one of her cats for a week and see how you do.

Good luck!

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M.C.

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If you say yes you would have daily contact, and weekly brushing. If they were outside cats and you just had to leave the food, I'd say okay. However, since they will be in the house and you will have to have physical contact for the brushing, I would have to pass on the offer.

Rent-free is an amazing offer, but you'd be miserable the whole time.

L.G.

answers from Eugene on

A bargain is a bargain only if it doesn't cost you more than you can pay. This is no bargain. When you have cat allergies one short haired can be negotiable but 6 cats. You will be lucky not to spend nights in the ER.
It won't be free if you develop asthma instead of being allergic.
Now that I see you answer maybe your husband needs to reel in his spending. He's living in the USA now and needs to tone it down to deal with the economic realities here. Let him assimilate more.
I know the story I come from a family that became Americanized.
And you need to go to the ER and see somebody in anaphaltic shock from cat allergies.

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C.B.

answers from Los Angeles on

Hmm...definitely ask your doctor about it. It sounds like a great opportunity for your family if you can tolerate your allergy for that long. Would it be possible for your husband to take care of the brushing and you can take care of the feeding and the rest? If the cats spend most of their time in the attic or outside, you might be able to tolerate it for 10 months, and to me it sounds like it would be worth it financially for your family (especially if you're paying off credit card debt). Can you maybe spend the day there as a test and see how badly you react? I am also very allergic to cats, so I know how you feel; and I also have hay fever (and I have asthma) so for me, even going outside is allergy-central. It is annoying, but not unbearable.

How are your kids and allergies? You might want to spend the day at the house with them as well, just to see if they have any kind of reaction to the cats. Good luck; I hope it works out for you!

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