Feeling down for More Complicated Pregnancy Symptoms

I looked back at your other questions, and I admit that I have a little concern about you based on what you've asked in the past. You seem to have a bit of trouble coping - remembering to pick up your kids, asking us how to remember things, feeling guilty about stuff as a mother, etc. This question about how to find courage in your pregnancy seems more of the same.

Have you had depression? I wonder if your doldrums might be more than just pregnancy woes. You really do need to talk to your doctor and see if this is a possibility. It's important to deal with this head-on. Post partum depression could rear its ugly head and cause you so much pain after the baby comes. And now you have other children to take care of during the pregnancy and that's important.

I had trouble gaining weight with my second pregnancy. I found that milkshakes helped. You can make some healthy shakes to take the place of food. Find out what indigestion medicine you can take while pregnant. Whatever you do, don't eat bagels before bed. OMG. The yeast in them did me in lying down.

Please go talk to your doctor.

Hi!

Please go for a visit with your doc. Don't feel bad about feeling sad, but do follow through with your doc. You sound like you are without some necessary vitamins or something based upon how you say you feel emotionally. At least see if the doc's nurse can talk to you.

Take care.

First of all caring for multiple children full time while being pregnant is very exhausting. While my first pregnancy was the most difficult symptom wise I was most exhausted in my last as I was also caring full time for a baby and a special needs kids.

I do agree a bit with Doris Day.... do you struggle with depression or ADD ?

Please go and talk to someone. A female therapist would be ideal. If you are depressed but not clinically, a therapist will help tremendously. Don't let this turn into full-blown postpartum depression. Just get some healthy food down and TALK. It will help a lot. Feel better.

BTW - seems like you are still pretty early on. So another few weeks and you'll feel much better. Also, ask your doc about gallstones. After a few pregnancies, good old heartburn can be a symptom. Never mind, just saw your update!! Hang in there. You'll feel better soon.

How far along are you, and what does your dr say?
In one of my pregnancies during the 1st trimester, I was not gaining because I was very sick with morning sickness (which was all-day sickness for me). Actually, I lost weight during my first trimester. I asked my doctor, and he pointed out that in the 1st trimester, the developing baby is so small that it needs less than 1/2 a peanut butter sandwich worth of calories to keep developing properly and that I should not worry.

It still wasn't any fun to be so sick, but at least he relieved my worries about the baby.

If this is really getting you down, I think you should talk with your OB. Your pregnancy hormones may be leading to some prenatal depression which you might need some help with.

((hugs))

Each pregnancy is different, and a lot of women have a much tougher time when they are already tired from raising children. They don't rest when they want to or need to, but wait for things to be calm and quiet - which they never are. They also don't always get the support and sympathy from others - the novelty has worn off and the women are "supposed to be good at" this pregnancy thing. Kids are out in preschool and day care and regular school, and they bring home the viruses - they are human viral machines, and they share with everyone.

You're sick, and tired, and you aren't eating. Try not to worry too much about the weight per se, and just make every bite you take as nutrition-laden as possible. A lot of my friends use highly digestible supplements, others use small snacks like 10 almonds or a tsp of peanut butter - heavy on the healthy fats and protein, and easy to take just a little of, maybe 15 times a day.

I wonder if your issues stem from your previously-posted problems with depression and not just from pregnancy. I think you are worrying a lot, and I wonder if you would benefit from some one-on-one support from a counselor. There are many who specialize in women, and pregnant women to boot. There are also pregnancy massage therapists and others who work to meet the unique emotional and physical needs of pregnant women.

I am concerned that you seem to feel you have to find courage and emotional support by just talking yourself out of this. I do think you should reach out to professionals more than you are.