Do You Love Your Adopted Adult Siblings?

I have two adopted siblings and I love them both. However, I am the only biological child and I really wish I had biological siblings. My sister was a troubled child and caused a lot of stress and trouble for my parents and my brother and I growing up. I realize this could have happened with a biological sibling, but I really wish I had biological siblings. I grew up in the early 70's and we were the only family I knew that had a mix of adopted and biological children. That was sometimes hard for me as I felt very different, which is hard for young kids. Adoption is definitely talked about more now, so I don't think you would run into that problem.

I can't say if I would love them any differently or more if they were biological siblings b/c I don't have any biological siblings.

I would also say you should really decide how this would impact you, your husband and your kids and decide if this is the right thing to do. Do you want more kids, or are you just doing this so your kids have more siblings? They really are two different issues. Talk to people about the issues you have to deal with when adopting older children, and decide if you can handle that and if it is the right thing for your family.

I'm not saying that it isn't the right thing, just make sure. There are lots of older kids that need homes and it is a wonderful to provide one for them, just make sure it is the right thing for you, your kids and any kids you would adopt.

I don't mean to attack you, but adoption isn't meant to benefit your family, its meant to benefit the child. If the primary reason you want to do it is for your kids, you probably shouldn't do it.

I commend your bravery and will be watching your responses. I'm not quite ready to adopt, but also hope to later, older kids, when my 3 are older. I am adopted and my adopted brother and I have always been close. Many of my step sisters were from very large families who had several adopted kids in them. They are all close as adults and many of them were adopted as teens. My dad's wife also sponsored a single mom in the service when she was 20, and to this day, 25 years later, she's like a sister in our family. It so great to expand love and connection in so many directions.

My oldest are 22 and 19 and I know they really love their adopted 6 yr old brother. Adoption DOES benefit the WHOLE family, (not just the adopted child) That's what happens when you add more love into the mix! Most people adopt because they want their family to be bigger, not because they feel sorry for some unknown orphan they havent met. Then they all benefit! I hope to hear on this thread from more families who have adopted.