WHAT??? A verbal contract is still a contract. Not only that, but out of respect for your wife and following up your word/promise with action. I have never withheld sex, but this is a case that I would, for certain...or at least use condoms...forever...which in NOT as reliable as a vasectomy.
There are problems with ALL sterilization and birth control usage (especially with Essure and Mirena)....but less with vasectomies, especially the open-ended technique, as far as prostate issues go later. I have done TONS of research on vasectomies for YEARS, becuase now that I am pregnant with #4, my husband IS going in for one, OR I can give him my home version of one....his choice. ;)
I have referred about 10 guys over to have vasectomies done with one specific doctor and they ALL came back saying how much easier it was that they thought it up in their cute little heads. My brother went to the same doc (at 30) and they were talking about cars, etc and suddenly, the doc says, "Ok, we're done." My brother was shocked. He felt nothing and said it was so easy...but I think it has to do with the technique. Dr. Benderev does not a use a scalpel (no scalpel technique - NST), nor does he inject anaesthetic (rather blows high pressure anesthetic on the scrotum) so there is no needle and then NO stitches....less swelling, less infection, less pain, etc. AND he leaves one end open. Maybe find someone like him near you...or come to sunny SoCal for a long weekend?
Have him read this on common fears for men:
http://www.vasectomy.com/ArticleDetail.asp?siteid=V&A...