my best friend and i were both trying to have a baby. she got pregant first. and everything was fine until she was 8 mothe pregnant. 1 day before the baby shower, she went to her dr appt and no heartbeat. they induced her labor and she deleverd a dead baby. She lost her mind. to make things worse, i just found out I was pregnant.
i never told her, but i did all i could for her, she was so upset, all i could do was listen to whatever she had to say, and tell her it was not anything she had done.
Offer your co worker all the support you can offer,just call her up and tell her that you heard about her loss and tell her that you are always there for her to talk to. she will remember that more than anything else.
hopefully she dont end up like my friend did, she was so upset, she decided to drown her sorrows in booze. then that wasent enough, so she turned to drugs. she pulled out of it for a while, and she became a constant at my house almost like a second mom to my baby, and i let her, but she had other problems and losing that baby only made them worse. she ended up overdosing and she died, leaving behind her 9 year old son.
and other experience i have with this was when my sister and i were both pregnant with our first babys at the same time, i had mine in july and she had hers in october and hers died, that was tuff, talk about resentment. i always felt that no matter what she always resented that her baby died and mine lived. we had a funneral for her baby and evrything, the whole family got to hold the baby, and all before she was buried. but she never got over it, she went on to have 6 more kids and could never quite replace the one she lost.
All i can say is be there and listen, make the first move, call her up and offer her an ear, or better yet take her some flowers or, i bought my girlfriend a #1 mom necklace and i told her that she was the best mom no matter what, and with all the crazy stuff that happoened, she still had that necklace when she died. she didnt have anthing else, she traded all her stuff to get high, but she kept that damm necklace.