We finally agreed on having another baby. I have wanted three and been pushing for three. But lately I guess I also have been feeling like I don't feell like I am missing anything, it is so confusing. I guess I was wondering if any Moms can help me sort out my mind and if anyone else feels this way?
I think you wanted it so much because you enjoyed pushing for it.
Now that you have the go ahead, there's no push and you can stop and think what number 3 will mean.
Growing up I thought having 2 would be good.
But we have one, and we're having such a good time focusing on him, we're totally happy with one child.
I don't think it's wise to create a life...just in case. I think babies should completely DESIRED. So, what if you have this baby? What if the baby changes your life? Makes it more stressful? Changes your relationships with your spouse and children? What if you end up resenting that a little? I'm not saying you ever would, but it's always a possibility. A baby should come from want and desire, not " Well, someday I may want another." Someday you may not, also.
I think Bug said it perfectly.
When I had my daughter I knew right away that I wanted another baby. She will be 3 soon and we are trying to have #2 now. I always wanted my kids close in age but the more I thought about it, out of all of my siblings I have grown closest to my youngest brother. I was old enough to change his diapers when he was born so there is quite the age gap between us.
If you want another baby later in life, then wait until that moment. If you are concerned about the age difference - don't be. The gap will allow the youngest to be his or herself without much influence from the older children and you will have the satisfaction of another child if that is what you want.
You are happy right now. Be happy! Enjoy your children that you have! Think about more when the time is right!
I'm confused. You agreed to have another, but then you changed your mind?
Me personally, I always felt like I *should* have a third after I had two, but I never desired another. For some reason a few months ago, I got the baby fever, and couldn't shake it. I wanted a baby so badly. Now I'm 13 weeks pregnant, and couldn't be happier.
I say wait until you desire a baby. Don't have one just because you feel like you should.
I'm with Bug on this one. Don't have another baby now if you "don't have much of a need for another baby". I love having three kids, but being pregnant with #3 while taking care of the two I already had was very difficult.
I don't know how old you are, but I'm willing to bet that you have plenty of time to think it over. If you decide that you are happy with two, then you are golden. Enjoy life with the kids that you have and don't bother trying for another until you are sure that you want another. My third baby is more of a handful than the first two combined. Make sure you know what you're signing up for if you want a third baby :-)
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Hi Mama
I always thought that I would love at least 3-4 kids.Now with two I am done.
Honestly I feel I don't have the energy for any more ha ha.
So you can only answer this.
All the best
B. k
I am in the same boat!! I have two boys (6 yrs & 3yrs) and a step son (13yrs). We also spend a lot of time with my nephew (10yrs). I am surrounded by pregnant women & have caught the bug! I have ALWAYS wanted a girl and thought about having another baby here lately past few months. I always said we would later try once again for a girl but would stop if were blessed with another boy. We live in a two bed room apartment now and would obviously need to upgrade if we were to have another baby- let alone it being a girl. My husband says it's up to me and he's willing to try but I am just hesitant. What if it's another boy- we'll still love him the same but will it just push my feeling to a few years later down the road? Do I really want to start all over again with a new baby. Will this just pass? My youngest just got potty trained and seeking to enroll him into pre-school. Money is good for us now, but would this push us over our means? Sigh... I am torn too but feel if it's meant to be it will be. For now as I am confused, this tells me I am not ready. Perhaps when I stop debating myself and find it easier to say Yes! then that's when we can start trying? Good luck! May you find the right answer for you and your family!
This is my situation: I have an almost 17 year old daughter. She is not my husbands.
He desperately wants one of his own. I'm still on the fence about it, but leaning towards going for it.
We agreed to start TTC in the fall. I think I'd wait another year or two, but don't want to be "too old" to conceive naturally. I'm 36.
So, while I don't need another, I know I'm not going to regret it. I won't be on my own like I was with my daughter, which is comforting.
I wish you luck in your decision making. I know it isn't always easy.
I want another baby, but with our financial situation its just not doable for us. Right now my baby is 5 months old, when he gets too big for baby cuddled and snuggles, Im thinking when I eventually wean him from nursing, my husband says he will get me a little dog to mother, lol. We have those baby urges for a reason I guess, so we will make more babies and they will have more babies. If its not going to put a burden on you financially, I say go ahead and have another, shoot, have 2 more, theres nothing like that new baby smell:)
Yes-you will most likely want another in the future-and before you know it...Grandchildren! God bless you!
