hey mamas, i have a question. i consider myself pretty cautious about online stuff, i don't give out personal information, only have a small number of friends (okay, it's about 100, but most of it is family, and people i actually know, from work. the exceptions to that are a few old friends from highschool) and i have every setting i have been able to find set at "friends only".
today i got online and found that i had been tagged in a terrible picture from the 8th grade. actually to be honest i didn't look THAT terrible (other than the embarrassing styles and awkward teenage-ness of it) but my old best friend was in the picture with me and it was an AWFUL picture of her. REALLY unflattering. during this period she was overweight, really awkward, had those huge ugly 80's glasses on...you get the idea. now she is gorgeous, she stays fit, tans, gets her hair done, actually i barely recognize her for the girl i was so close to, but that's neither here nor there. point is, it was one of those pictures i am sure she'd be mortified to know was online. thing is, she doesn't have email or use facebook or really use the internet at all that i know of, and she certainly doesn't keep up with any of us from high school. but i really felt protective, like she would really be upset if she knew this picture was online for all the world to see. of course, since she isn't on facebook, she wasn't tagged, but i really just feel that it's wrong to post pictures like that of people that have no idea you're doing it.
the OTHER thing is, as i looked at it, the person who tagged me in the photo ISN'T EVEN MY FRIEND! i had NO idea someone who isn't on your friends list could tag you! everyone i know has now seen that picture. yes, she is an acquaintance from high school, and whether or not i "would" be her friend (IF she had ever asked!) isn't the point. the fact is she's NOT. so what is to stop any joe schmoe from tagging me in ANY picture?
is there a privacy setting i missed, or is this just an oversight by facebook? i just really find that WRONG. i removed it from MY profile, but the only other option was to report it and i don't want to be a B**** about it, i mean my family has posted worse, and it's really more about the principal of the thing.
i am inclined to just ignore it....since my friend doesn't keep in contact with anyone from "back in the day" it's unlikely she will ever hear about it or see it...but it just sits really bad with me. i would really like to know if there is a way to stop virtual strangers from tagging me without my permission....anyone? thanks in advance!
thanks ladies. i went into my settings for the hundredth time and did find something where if my FRIENDS tag me, i can accept or reject it...but nothing about a stranger being able to do so. i did send an email. that's just really disturbing that anyone can do that! my husband said that with them paying people to try to hack them (i did hear about that), that this sounded like one of the things they were talking about fixing - but he wasn't 100% sure that's what they said...I SURE HOPE SO. that is (not from me!) a lawsuit waiting to happen, seems to me. WRONG WRONG WRONG.
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and i bet you are right...i bet the non-friend posted it, and a friend tagged me. ugh. i feel less mortified after sleeping on it...but still. WHY would someone do that....?
That is just wrong . . . ugh I detest FB even though I'm on it quite a bit (mainly to monitor what's going on).
You can set Facebook to ask for approval when people tag you in photos, wall posts or check-ins. Check under privacy settings.
Facebook annoys me, and I don't even use it.
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People are slimy and have no shame. I have a few relatives that post pictures of anyone and everyone. One of the main reasons I stay on facebook, so I can keep in check of people giving out my personal information and such, which does happen.
Also, the tagging approval isn't exactly accurate. I just checked. You can be notified of when a person tags you, and you can approve it for it to not appear on your profile before it does. However, that tag can still be seen elsewhere on facebook, for instance, another person's wall or photo album. You would have to remove the tag manually, but there is no way to make sure they don't retag it.
I didn't know someone who wasn't your friend could tag you either. I will have to look in to this because I also have my security setting really high.
Maybe write facebook and ask them about it? I have had a problem before and they emailed me back within 24 hours.
If that person or someone else that she has access too posted the picture, she can "tag" anyone. My sister actually tags me in pictures that she has taken if she thinks I will want to see them.
Now, if you posted the picture but have you settings set to friends only then she can't see it and therefore can't "tag" you or anyone else.
I think it is great that you care how your friend would feel but she's a big girl now and the picture is once from her past.
Most likely what happened is you two (the picture poster and you) have a mutual friend and the mutual friend tagged you in the photo. You can tag people in photos other people post.
If the person who posted the pic is mutual friends of both of yours, that mutual friend can tag you on that persons pictures even if you and the pic holder are not friends. I had a friend do that to one of my pics. It was the city Easter egg hunt and it had a pic of her sister in law and nephew standing next to my kids. The mutual friend tagged her sis in law. That's probably how it happened.
You can remove a tag, but you can't keep her from posting pictures from her personal collection, even of you.
Most likely a mutual friend tagged you, not the person who posted the pic. I could be wrong but I think she can only tag you if you are FB friends. She could type in your name but it wouldn't tag (unless that has changed). Either way - I wouldn't worry about it. You can always untag yourself - that's what I do if someone tags me and I don't like the pic.
I believe you can "un tag" yourself, I have actually done that. But not sure if they have updated anything, to make you not be able to do that. I understand what you are saying about people tagging you with someone that is not you, that happened to a guy I work with, and the picture wasn't good. I don't really know what you can do about it if you can't untag yourself.
Anyone can post a picture that is from a yearbook or any other public type book and label the pictures with the names. That is the way it is on any web site known. I could go to a garage sale and buy an old yearbook and post the pictures and do just that. It would be nice if they took the picture off but don't expect them to do it just because you want them to, they want it posted.
