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Three Year Old and Phonics

Ok, so I have really been trying to work with my 3 1/2 year old son on his phonics skills. He has known all of his letters for quite some time now so I figured this was the next step. We do a "letter of the day" and he colors pics of things that start with that letter, traces the letter etc. We paste all of his work onto a piece of cardstock and hang it in his room so we can reference them. The problem I am having is that he does not seem to grasp the concept of "this letter makes this sound" I ask him what an "s" sounds like and he gives me a word that starts with s, usually something that we colored for that letter. With enough repeating for him he will eventually give me the actual sound but I don't think he actually understands what I am asking him. It is more like he is just memorizing the correct response to the question. I get kind of frustrated because I feel like he should be able to "grasp" this concept. Do any of you have experience w/this or know if it is normal that he is not "getting it" all of the way yet? I just know with the way school is now days he needs to be reading simple words by the time he hits Kindergarten... am I expecting too much too soon?? Thanks mommies!

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Hi Robyn,
My son had the same problm. I bought the leap frog dvd that is called Letter Factory. It is all about the sounds the letters make. It helps kids learn to read also. You should try it. They have it at Costco and Walmart.
Hope it helps you...
J.

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honestly, i think you are expecting too much too soon. my daughter is 4.5 now, i put her in preschool when she was 3.5. they started her off with the same thing you are doing, the tracing, words that begin with that letter, all that good stuff. only now, that she is 4.5 are they begining the sound recognition stuff. i think that he is already ahead of the game, and if you push the issue with him, and let him see you getting frustrated, he is going to lose interest in your activities. let him work at HIS pace, and he will get it. one thing you may want to try is this "p p p purple." to kind of help him grasp the concept. but right now, what you are doing with him is much more than alot of kids are getting! he is going to be the smartest kindergardener in the class, because he has a mommy who is willing to help him out!

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My son just started kindergarten and they spent the first month learning shapes and colors. in Oct. they start letters and the sounds they make and some sight words. The kindergarten teacher said by Oct of first grade they need to be able to read 30 sight words. they do not need to be able to read by kindergarten. I would however also recomend the letter factory if you still want your child to learn it. I personally spend more time on creative play with my two young boys like building blocks and playdough.

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my daughter is almost 4 and struggles with that, she is in speech therapy, and they have only said that her annunciation is off. if you feel concerned about schooling, then perhaps you could look into other philosophies of schooling like montessori or waldorf, i'm doing the same.

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Hi, yes you're expecting too much.

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it may seems too simple, but, maybe make a song out of the sounds. something like.."the letter s sounds like ssssssss." i notice that songs make it easier to retain new info. good luck. :)

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At the risk of sounding judgemental...Are you kidding??? It sounds to me like you have an advanced little boy who you are pushing beyond his age and abilities. I don't know where you live but in my area Kinders are taught letter sounds...in kindergarten. You may be helping him to advance beyond his peers but I suspect you are breeding a painfully bored kindergartener as he sits through the things his mommy taught him 2 years earlier! Don't make learning a struggle now or he will learn it is going to be a struggle for life (even though it probably wouldn't be when he's actually ready to learn the concepts). I think you need to let go of the pressure for him to advance and know that when he is ready the light bulb will go on so to speak and he will all of the sudden grasp the concept you are trying to teach him. In the meantime, ease up...on him and on yourself. Pushing that hard won't do anyone any favors! You are a very intentional mother to have taught him the way you have to this point, I guarantee he will enter kinder WAY ahead of his peers!

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Hi Robyn,

My son got the 'Letter Factory' DVD for his birthday a year ago. This DVD teaches phonics in a fun and easy way. He recognizes and knows the sounds of letters! It's amazing what kids can absorb everyday.

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Hi Robyn,
My son had the same problm. I bought the leap frog dvd that is called Letter Factory. It is all about the sounds the letters make. It helps kids learn to read also. You should try it. They have it at Costco and Walmart.
Hope it helps you...
J.

1 mom found this helpful

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