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Gift Opening Etiquette

Okay, so my coworkers want to have my baby shower at a restaurant on a sunday night coming up. i have seen showers done where you open everyones gifts in front of everyone, and ones where the gifts were saved until after to open in private and write personal thank you's out for each one.i kind of like that idea better so I remember who gets me what and I also like it because no one will feel outdone by anyone else since this is a work party and a place of high gossip. Although it seems ridiculous, the kind of people I work with will go back the next day and talk about who bought what, etc. So, do you think its bad etiquette to save gifts for a private home opening?

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I simply hate showers or birthday parties where the gifts are opened later! Most people want to see you open their gift! Ask someone to write down who got you what. People expect gift opening to be part of a shower!

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I think for baby showers sometimes the most fun is had seeing the gifts! Oohhhing and aaahhing over the cute outfits and adorable baby toys is the best. Don't save it for later.

Now kid's birthday parties are the opposite. I hate it when the kids open the presents at the parties. Save those for later :-)

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I've never been to a shower where the gifts weren't opened. Normally the hostess of the shower will write down the gift and giver's name for the mom-to-be so she can easily remember who gave what when it's time to write the thank you cards.

I say open your gifts and let them talk all they want the next day. That's their petty thing not yours. Enjoy your shower and enjoy opening your gifts!

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I simply hate showers or birthday parties where the gifts are opened later! Most people want to see you open their gift! Ask someone to write down who got you what. People expect gift opening to be part of a shower!

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Not sure about the etiquette question, but I've always had the hostess or someone write the gift on the back of the card to make the thank you cards easier.

As most showers involve the opening of gifts, think about how you will fill the time without that activity.

Good luck!

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I think for baby showers sometimes the most fun is had seeing the gifts! Oohhhing and aaahhing over the cute outfits and adorable baby toys is the best. Don't save it for later.

Now kid's birthday parties are the opposite. I hate it when the kids open the presents at the parties. Save those for later :-)

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I think that is a GREAT idea, as long as everyone is ok with it. I always feel so awkward opening gifts in the first place and especially front of a group of people. I think that opening them in private and writing a thank you note from the heart sounds so much better!

Have Fun!

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I agree that the gifts should be opened at the shower. There is always someone who is willing to write down what you received. You should also get someone to write down everything you say. The old wives tales is that the things you say at your shower are things you will say when you are in labor. Do not worry about what your co-workers say, that is their problem. You enjoy your shower and the new bundle when he/she arrives.

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I didn't open gifts at my shower for exactly that reason. I stated that the people in my life and at the shower were more important than gifts and I wanted to focus to be on the people I love and appreciate. That is the partial truth; the other truth is that I absolutely can not stand that much attention in my direction. There is a way to be graceful without following Emily Post. Best to you and congratulations!

J.

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my fav part of showers is seeing what the mom got and oohing and aahhing over the baby clothes. I would designate someone to write down who brought what for the thank yous.

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